Comments | seperate_smile: Help me, help them.

seperate_smile

Help me, help them.

May 30, 2007 12:57

(Online article: “10 Tip for Single Moms Who Date”)
10. Expect resistance. Magdoff says, "Lots of times women are dating perfectly nice guys and their kids are horrible to them, especially if it's the first guy after the divorce or the first one you get serious about." One articulate ten-year-old Magdoff knows admitted to his mother: "It's not Bill ( Read more... )

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in_thelight May 31 2007, 06:23:30 UTC

I hope Kevin is able to step up and realize he is dealing with a small child and shouldn't take it so personally. Aside from all the obvious things you pointed out that your son has gone through a lot of changes... well... he's 2 1/2! They don't call it the terrible twos for nothing. The two year olds I've been around tend to be possessive with their toys and their parents. I remember my second cousin use to smack or bite me if I got near his grandmother (my aunt). lol

Please keep in mind that your son is just a young kid being a young kid, and Kevin is the one who should be expected to act like the adult, certainly not your child. If your son bothers him that much, then perhaps he's not as good with children as he thinks.

seperate_smile June 4 2007, 20:02:40 UTC

I know all this, as does Kevin...its mostly just the frustrating factor. Especially when I *know* Lane likes Kevin but cannot project that positive energy towards Kevin.... :o\

corizilla May 31 2007, 15:09:11 UTC

I guess I can't offer too much advice on this subject because Oliver and Aaron hit it off from the start. The one thing I can say though is that Aaron never took Oliver's temper tantrums personally and he's always been good at calming him down during one ( ... )

seperate_smile June 4 2007, 20:14:27 UTC

Yeah I've heard that coming across as one or the other is best instead of both. A few friends have suggested we lay off the physical affections so Lane doesn't "hate" Kevin and get possessive/protective of me. But I think what you said about brusing off the bad attitude rings all too true. I tried to get some advice from my sis as well, who's youngest was almost 4 when she met her husband. I think age IS a big factor and I keep hoping, wishing and crossing my fingers that Kev will stick around long enough to see the other side of Lane. The goofy, lovable side...

corizilla June 4 2007, 23:27:09 UTC

Yeah, it probably is all just really new to him and he's not too sure how to react to it. I think time will end up being the biggest factor because the more that Kevin is around, the more Lane will get used to him and warm up.

I like what the guy below me said too. I think if Kevin took Lane somewhere really fun without you (like the movies, the zoo, or the park) then he might warm up to him a little faster. Maybe you should think about Lane's favorite activity and then have him do that with Kevin, it might put some of that disgruntleness at ease. I know that Aaron takes Oliver places, yesterday they went and saw the Pirates 3 movie without me.

touchcloudbase June 1 2007, 11:16:26 UTC

Let’s cut the guys some slack (by now you will have guessed this is male talking ( ... )

seperate_smile June 4 2007, 20:21:03 UTC

lol thank you thank you thank you for your input!

"My son will run past me to this mother most times he wants support. I would image that Kevin suffers the same rejection ALL the time, after a while it hurts." Ding, ding, ding! I think this is it...the rejection. I know I feel that little pang when a child doesn't like me, considering I (just like Kevin) have aaalways been good with kids. They instantly like me, as they instantly like him. So when it doesn't instantly happen you feel rejected and defeated ( ... )