I'm not sure. I think a big problem for me is *noticing* when I need to be cheered up; it's too easy to get stuck assuming that all those negative feelings are actually true.
But when something specific has gone wrong and I feel awful, I try to: - take a complete break from it for a few hours (ideally a day), and do something else (read, watch a movie) to let my brain acclimatise to the facts and wash out the emotions without dwelling on it - talk to Rachel, or my mother, or someone else who reminds me that people love me and I'm a worthwhile person even if this has gone horribly wrong - be in sunshine - don't let it write off my day completely -- even if I have to take a break, do something, even just routine household chores, so I have some momentum to continue tomorrow. - later on, but not while I'm still upset, see if there's anything I still feel uncertain of and talk it through with someone
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I'm not sure. I think a big problem for me is *noticing* when I need to be cheered up; it's too easy to get stuck assuming that all those negative feelings are actually true.
But when something specific has gone wrong and I feel awful, I try to:
- take a complete break from it for a few hours (ideally a day), and do something else (read, watch a movie) to let my brain acclimatise to the facts and wash out the emotions without dwelling on it
- talk to Rachel, or my mother, or someone else who reminds me that people love me and I'm a worthwhile person even if this has gone horribly wrong
- be in sunshine
- don't let it write off my day completely -- even if I have to take a break, do something, even just routine household chores, so I have some momentum to continue tomorrow.
- later on, but not while I'm still upset, see if there's anything I still feel uncertain of and talk it through with someone
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