When your own needs are taken care of, when you're self-sufficient enough and strong enough to just love someone rather than project your own needs, needful insecurities, needs for affirmation and reaffirmation (because of jealousy, self-doubt, etc), even the very need to have someone to love: if you can reach that place, without those needs, then you can spend all of your energy just loving a person, rather than needing them. Needing tends to poison relationships. It can be nice, for a while, but over time the neediness is what brings it all downhill, at least from my experience/perspective. In an extreme case, you get "demolition lovers" ( http://www.elyrics.net/read/m/my-chemical-romance-lyrics/demolition-lovers-lyrics.html ), in which one can see an extreme of neediness and the destruction it can bring.
What an enlightened interpretation. Lots of truths to consider. How do you think the dynamic of wanting someone vs. needing someone plays into it? Is it a less developed sort of love altogether or does "need" redeem itself in this case?
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When your own needs are taken care of, when you're self-sufficient enough and strong enough to just love someone rather than project your own needs, needful insecurities, needs for affirmation and reaffirmation (because of jealousy, self-doubt, etc), even the very need to have someone to love: if you can reach that place, without those needs, then you can spend all of your energy just loving a person, rather than needing them. Needing tends to poison relationships. It can be nice, for a while, but over time the neediness is what brings it all downhill, at least from my experience/perspective. In an extreme case, you get "demolition lovers" ( http://www.elyrics.net/read/m/my-chemical-romance-lyrics/demolition-lovers-lyrics.html ), in which one can see an extreme of neediness and the destruction it can bring.
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