Comments | settingshadow: This was going to be the happy perky comment meme...

settingshadow

This was going to be the happy perky comment meme...

Jul 21, 2004 18:33

...but something kind of serious has happened, and I think it needs to be addressed, and therefore, I am putting off any happy perkiness until it is. (by the way, to the person whose post motivated this -- I'm really not mad at you. This entry is in no way addressed to you in specific, except this bit in parentheses; you merely made me aware of ( Read more... )

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nine_dragonned July 21 2004, 16:33:38 UTC

Sweetie, I really hate to bring up bad memories but I keep hearing fragments of stories about this incident, parts of it reaching J-Board or Senate. The worse versions always come in gossip so I was hoping I could take you up on the objective story since I trust you to be the most stable on it. If its painful at all don't worry about it any more on my account, I'm obviously not actually involved except through those that were. If you do have the energy and didn't want a public voice on it again my address is ninedragonned@yahoo.com now.

So... On a more cheery topic (quick, think of something happy!), uh, how are your... elbows? Still as nice as ever? They always were you know.

settingshadow July 21 2004, 20:30:57 UTC

from whom do *you* hear these things? God the gossip chain is long.

e-mail me what you've heard (rganetzk@cs.oberlin.edu) and I'll go through and respond.

settingshadow July 21 2004, 20:50:23 UTC

I think I also want to make a public reply (to the public comment...)
Which is that, stuff invariably hits Senate/J-Board, but I never raised issues on either. I always excused myself on both, offering only information strictly necessary to the subject, and when doing so for what I thought was the best for all parties involved, rather than to hurt anyone.

Sure, it hurts like Hell to hear things like this, but I'd rather talk about it. So that I know what I did wrong and so that I set the record straight on what I didn't do than not get hurt.

sunsetscreamer July 22 2004, 13:11:23 UTC

sorry for upsetting you. if you want to be irritated at someone be irritated at me. i take full responsibility for bringing any of it up again; no one was talking about it much til i got to wondering, and i had my reasons, and you weren't around to ask. i could have e-mailed you maybe i don't know. i guess its all irrelevant now.

settingshadow July 22 2004, 20:07:53 UTC

Don't worry about it -- I'm not irritated.
I said a lot of things in this post that really were things that were cathartic for me to say. You know my position about talking to me about things, now, so I'm not really concerned. But what you did makes sense, and someone else who came in to your position could have done the same thing, and I just want my expectations and desires to be clear.

nezumi_fae July 23 2004, 20:54:14 UTC

Might I just point out that the whole mess was a year and a half ago. At this time in our lives we all change so much in that amount of time. I know I have. Personaly I prefer to say that I learned a lot about many folk's characers under stress, including my own but I dont fool myself into thinking that dosnt change. And good for you, girl, in talking about it rationaly. If I can help you in any way tell me.

settingshadow July 24 2004, 10:45:55 UTC

(I think I pointed out that I've decided to assume that everyone's changed...if i didn't, well, you're quite right and I should have pointed it out.)

I'm actually doing pretty well. I think I just needed to get it off my chest and point out that closure needs to happen.

(If you want to help, just remind people that it's over if it ever gets brought up. By anyone, even me.)