conversations & communications

[sexkyttyn]

how do you have a conversation with your husband? beyond the "how was your day dear?" the more years we've been together, the more i've come to realize that we have less to talk about. the only stuff we really have to talk about to each other anymore are life issues, money, children, family, etc. we used to be able to talk for what seemed like

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[desolatediva]

darlin' I think the main problem lies in the fact that there are three people in your marriage. How can you be number 1 in his life, mind and soul when you have a third person to think about who is suppose to be your equal in the relationship? It would be different if you had kids- they deserve a different type of attention.

As far as him giving Liz attention- I think you see it and want it, then you ask him about it, but shun away from it because you know you're not the only one on his mind. He's giving you attention that you want, but there may be no intimacy in it because you had to ask for it, and so you shun away from it. Just a thought.

If things are rough, perhaps you should sit down with the three of you and talk- not just you and him. You have to take into consideration that there are three people and whatever changes are made it affects all people involved.

I have no idea if this is any help. I try... but since I can't get my own life straight, I shouldn't meddle in other's. Oh well.

Good luck.

[sexkyttyn]

actually, it makes perfect sense. i just need input from outside of me, outside of us, to help me think through my own thoughts. thanks for the input, honey, it's something to chew over.

[desolatediva]

I do what I can. I hope it helps.