Did I do a bad, bad thing?

[sexyliveamy]

So, last week, around the time that Michael wrote that really pissed off entry, he asked me if I knew what Ellis did after he dropped him off to see Kida. And I wasn't sure whether I should lie or whether I should tell the truth, because I DID know that Ellis went out for a walk with Crow. So . . . I told the truth

Comments

[sexymegalo]

No, you totally didn't do a bad thing. It's not your responsibility to lie for someone, especially if you never said you would. You have to be loyal to both Michael and Ellis, and you shouldn't lie when you don't want to.

[sexyliveamy]

Thanks, Meghan. That makes me feel a lot better. :)

I just wish Michael had never asked me to begin with, I guess. Maybe the fact that he asked is what makes me most uncomfortable--I mean, he wouldn't have asked if he was feeling comfortable with the relationship in the first place . . .

And I don't know if he asked because he wanted to see if he was "justified" in being pissed, or whether he asked because he was looking for a last shred of hope *not* to be pissed . . .

[sexymegalo]

I think it was more about being justified in being pissed. I think he was still so mad at that time that he didn't exactly care about having hope for it. I mean, I don't think it would've meant much about what Ellis feels for Crow even if he didn't go on a walk with him.

[sexinessoflyla]

Here's what I think (without fully understanding what the heck is going on at ALL - but still using my sexy powers of lj-reading deduction) - I think that if Michael really wanted to know, and wanted to go about finding out the right way, he should've asked Ellis. He shouldn't have put you in that position - because he was putting you either in the position to lie to make him feel better, or to tell him the truth to make him feel like crap.

Amy, don't feel guilty - remember Michael is the one who asked, and all you did was tell the truth. There's nothing to feel guilty about there. I think you did the right thing. If you had lied, the truth would come out eventually, and THAT could put you in the middle. I know it must feel bad to feel like you're the cause of Michael's anger, but remember, YOU'RE not the reason he's mad. If you're not sure, maybe you could ask him yourself if he's mad that you were honest with him.

Gay boys and their drama!!

[sexyliveamy]

I have complete confidence in your LJ-reading powers of deduction! But you're probably confused about what the heck is happening because nothing really HAS happened . . . I mean, Crow and Ellis whent out about a month ago when Michael was playing an out-of-town gig--they went out dancing and kissed but that's it; Ellis confessed to Michael about the kiss; Michael more-or-less forgave Ellis, but said if Ellis was "emotionally" involved with someone else (meaning he was distracted by Crow, wanting to be with him, etc.) then he wanted him to break it off. But Ellis was all like, "Of course I don't want to break it off!" So, they seemed more or less fine

[vaingodcomplex]

I guess it's good that I can read this. Good that I know these things.

What Meghan says is true-I believe in keeping secrets for friends, but I guess you do only need to keep them if someone asks you to.

[sexyliveamy]

Well, if it makes you feel any better, he doesn't seem that mad anymore . . .

What things do you mean it's good to know? Good to know that he knows you went on that walk with Crow? Or good to know he was pissed off? Or good to know that I don't want to get in the middle of it?

[vaingodcomplex]

Just good to know that he knows, I guess.
Just not to be in the dark, in general.

[sexyliveamy]

Well, for future reference, you can learn a lot from talking to me! As Michael found out. :/