Contemplating

[shadez69]

This has to do with relationships. More to the point, long distance relationships.

I put a lot of thought into relationships. Perhaps that is why mine seems to work, perhaps not. Who am I to say? I can’t write definitive laws on relationships, I however can pose questions to myself, then show what answers I came up with. Perhaps they make sense,

Comments

[morbidiqua]

I don't know. I have seen both men and women pick up and move for long distance relationships but you are correct that more women seem to do so. I think in this culture a woman's "being" is usually considered secondary to the male's. Thus the desire to change one's surname and quit one's job and isolate oneself in a foreign place. Sadly women are taught that their happiness can be found in the arms of a man and all sense of self should be sacrificed for it. In some ways it is a very romantically freeing concept. Losing the need for one's current heartaches. Losing one's identity. Starting afresh and yet with a new crutch to catch you when you fall. An identity crutch can be a very attractive thing. Letting go and becoming childlike again and allowing someone else to take the grief. It is a very non-traditional way for men to think but I can see women abandoning all sense of self and logic towards this concept of romance. The concept of the Prince Charming that will make everything better

First to admit

[shadez69]

I know I annoy my wife at times. I know sometimes she would love to throw something at me ;) Then again that is reality, anyone that says that thier mate does not annoy them at times is either A) Lying or B) Still in the puppy love stage. Any long term relationship will provide both parties with some annoying aggravating times. The thing that seperates successful relationships and non, are how these issues are handled. Once again this is all merely my opinion.

Refreshing to hear your view on this.

[gcyogi]

I believe that anyone who picks up and moves across the country to be with someone they have never met is completely crazy. I wasn't even willing to commit to a relationship with someone I knew, but hadn't seen in months, who lived rather far until I spent time with them. If you feel a real connection then go for a visit... don't pack up and move. If they feel the same connection they will wait. If they don't... you're likely better off.

Insanity

[shadez69]

Valid points :)

[redseth]

From my security background, I have had to deal with guys who flew out to CA just because they thought the girl that they had been chatting/e-mailing on AOhelL was interested in them. Scarry enough, this has happened more then a couple times. I would get a call from Ms. X saying that some guy was at her door & freaking her out.

Personnaly, I am seeing first hand how tough it is to have a relationship in the same state, but 2.5 hours apart!

Ahhh Stalkers

[shadez69]

I'll save that for another rant ;)

[faucon9]

So many people are so lost on what it really means to have a partnership. It goes beyond being faithful, devoted, and highly compatible. You have to be able to love -yourself- before you can truly love anyone else, you have to be faithful, devoted, and highly consistent on your own before you can try and make something like that outside of yourself with another person

[shadez69]

It may take more looking, but then again, what your looking for may not be what the othe rperson is really.

[faucon9]

Very true - and well put =)

Sad but true.

[fourcrows]

I have to say that I loved reading this post and it's following comments. You people have a ton of really smart things to say.
When I was 19 I dated a guy who lived in NY. He was 24. We chatted online for a while and then he came to see my best friend here in NH. They grew up together in the Bronx years ago.
It was love at first sight. The mind of thing you see in movies. We fell head over heals in love and the love distance KILLED us.
Needless to say, it ended about a year later.
You are absolutly right. If all you are doing in chatting online and on the phone and you dont actualy KNOW this person it's a little scarey. If you are brave enough to meet I would suggest meeting in public for sure.
Long distance relationships can work. And NO, prince charming is not real.

Re: Sad but true.

[shadez69]

:)