Question

[shadowfire4ever]

Hmmm seems there is a reason, or conflict with all the guys I like and why I can't date them
1. He lives in Calgary.
2. He has a girlfriend.
3. He is two years younger then me.

Should age matter?
Probably only in high school. But if I like him why should it matter right? Right?
Of course I don't even know if I like him yet. I want to get to know him

Comments

[honeybunni]

and who is this youngin' that you be cougarin'?
hmmmm?

[shadowfire4ever]

Haha, funny you should say cougarin' because I saw a book today about how to be a successful cougar. lol
I'll tell you over something a little more private. *blush*

[_eunoia]

My boyfriend is 2 years younger than me. I honestly don't think that age definetely matters, because it doesn't correlate to maturity at all.

That said, at this point in your life, you have to decide how other people's views are going to impact how you feel about the relationship, because there are probably going to be people that you know that don't understand why you're dating someone younger than you. There's also taking into consideration how you would both feel about the fact that he'd still be in school after you graduate, and that when you turn 19 and want to get drunk in a bar, he wouldn't be able to go with you.

If you don't care what other people think, I'd say go for it. :)

Plus there's always conflict. Even if it's not immediately apparent, there's almost always going to be something about a boy that makes you say (usually in your head, but sometimes out loud) "OMG what is WRONG with you?" It's just a matter of what conflicts you are willing to put up with to be with them.

[pillzz]

Being in Calgary &having a girlfriend are pretty hard ones to put up with. Actually... those are fairly similar to the reasons that I am single right now...

[_eunoia]

SOME people like long distance relationships. (I can't figure out why, but it DOES happen.) &you are right about the having a girlfriend one though....&even if you can convince someone not to have a girlfriend anymore &date you instead, it makes people think you are some kind of horrible person. (Which really, should be blamed on the jerk who decided to break up with their girlfriend for a crappy reason.)

Relationships pretty much suck.

[pillzz]

Pretty much yeah.

But they can also be a lot of fun somehow?

[pillzz]

I think that to some degree age does matter, but you kind of have to decide for yourself how much it matters to you.

[arion_knight]

my girlfriend is younger than me, and we get along famously =)

[shadowfire4ever]

Yes but girls mature faster then boys, so it labelled as ok for a girl to go out with an older guy. But not for a girl to go out with a younger guy. They get called a cougar.

This guy is two years younger then me so the maturity levels are kinda mismatched.

[honeybunni]

at this age you aren't officially a cougar... heck I called you and Maddy cougars for dating boys a year younger than you both... I'd probably end up calling you a cougar for dating a guy a month younger than me... just cus I can...
and it's fun to say
but you must point this boy out to me so I can see if he's good enough
Maybe he's a mature boy... LMAO there's no such thing
who am I kidding?
just joking kind of...

[shadowfire4ever]

I'll point him out to you, but I think I've already made my choice.
I don't think I should date him. And not just because he's two years younger, yeah thats a big thing, but I have other reasons too.