Confused about Sex

[shadowgirll]

Ok. Now, even tho it's a cliche, everyone always seems to have 16 in mind as the age at which they are willing to lose their virginity. For a few years, it is the thing you are waiting for, and it's also a good excuse if you need one, a fallback position. I'm waiting til I'm 16, etc

Comments

[anonymous]

um...just to comment on the changing the relationship...it can really ruin it. As long as the relationship is very strong its good and you have to talk about how u felt about it and talk through what you are feelings cause without the communication it gets screwed over

[genissimo]

"My mom says it (doing it) can really change a relationship, sometimes not in a good way."

Two reasons:

1) One of the two people becomes unbearable. The girl gets clingy or the guy wants more. Sex is just another figure in the equation...but there's no telling what it will do until after it happens, or how each individual reacts to the change in the relationship.

2) Niether of them were really ready after all (mentally), and they break up because of the trauma. It really is a big deal for our minds to wrap around, even though before hand it seems like nothing at all. Mind over matter is hard to achieve...and often our phisical gets ahead of our mental, and we run into problems we can't control.

Oh, hi, by the way, who are you? You commented on my little sisters LJ about the death penalty, so I clicked. :-)