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[shakzitten]

I'm thinking about how it seems I attract people into my life who are eternally having some sort of intangible conflict. And it's always the same people who say that i'm their only friend or say that they NEED me, and so they unload (again and again) their problems onto my shoulders, and then shoot down every solution or advice or piece of sympathy

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[lady_of_entropy]

First off, I know you didn't want anyone to really see this but I totally read all of that XD BUT, I don't know who the hell these people are so no worries. Anyway

*hugs*

[lady_laguna]

This is one of those situations where I hope none of these apply to me and I don't THINK any of them do ;D You did say none of them have LJs after all...

I'm a little bummed that you seem to have SO MANY friends like this. I just thought it was the one. You definitely need to grow a backbone and tell it like it is to these people... Or at least try to nudge them in the right direction. I feel like you're just enabling them to continue doing these things and therefore they'll never be able to stand on their own. I mean, what if you get hit by a bus?? Then they're fucked ;D

[sonador_hermosa]

I still read your lj! :D I'm sorry you're having these problems! :( I guess emotional vampires tend to look for people who are kind-hearted and empathic to unload their bullshit on. One-sided relationships of any kind suck, and I hope you can find the courage to rid your life of these people soon! :) You deserve better! *HUGS* You're awesome, Missy! :D <3<3<3

[lobstermagnet]

Awwww Missy, you know I still read :)

I've never had this issue as badly as you seem to, but I definitely understand where you're coming from. Distancing yourself is practically impossible until you reach your wit's end! I wish I had some good advice, but I don't. My issues like this kind of worked themselves out and seemed to go away all on their own. I stopped feeding the little beasts, and slowly they stopped hanging out on my porch. I didn't even have to hit them with a broom! I just had to be like "I'm sorry, I've been so busy with work, I forgot to buy you food." Trust me. They always find another porch.

That said, if you want/need to talk I am always happy for a little extra Missy time :) I love you and everything you are and cannot wait to see you grow and grow. <3