A an excellent approach for all "families," non-bio families and people in general. That way, no one can let you down. I haven't mastered this entirely but I'm working on it.
I disagree. I think that the essence of trust is that you can have expectations, and feel secure in them.
For me, letting go of expectations is an ending point, a way of dealing with repeated disappointment, with learning that there are people I cannot and should not trust, no matter how much I want to.
To start from there seems to me unduly pessimistic.
"To start from there seems to me unduly pessimistic."
I didn't mean to imply that it was a starting point at all -- far from it. It is, for me, a place of peace and freedom from disappointment. At least that's the goal. I really can be pretty happy expecting nothing and getting something or nothing at all.
Insanity (def) - just keep doing the same thing you've been doing and expect a different result. If what you've been doing is conveying your expectations clearly and not having them met, a different approach seems in order.
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For me, letting go of expectations is an ending point, a way of dealing with repeated disappointment, with learning that there are people I cannot and should not trust, no matter how much I want to.
To start from there seems to me unduly pessimistic.
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I didn't mean to imply that it was a starting point at all -- far from it. It is, for me, a place of peace and freedom from disappointment. At least that's the goal. I really can be pretty happy expecting nothing and getting something or nothing at all.
Insanity (def) - just keep doing the same thing you've been doing and expect a different result. If what you've been doing is conveying your expectations clearly and not having them met, a different approach seems in order.
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