This Hit The Nerve

[she_wolf_j]

I dearly wish the woman who grabbed me into a right bear hug as my father's coffin was sliding down had read this. Before she robbed me of what I wanted to be a moment to myself and a silent goodbye to my dad. I had an urge to push her away but I was both too stunned by the act and too stunned overall to do it. I wish I did. I really, really wish I

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[para_xylene]

THAT was interesting. The article, not what you experienced.

The thing about what happened to you. I don't know what to say. I'm shocked and outraged. Nobody really had a chance to do that to me. I wish, I so wish, they hadn't the chance to do that to you.

I can't help but think of the horrible things I experienced when my niece and my mother died. Especially the hangers on when my niece died... it was disgusting. People my brother didn't know very well just waltzed into his house and decided to officiate his and his wife's mourning. They never had a proper chance to be alone.

I'm glad you linked the article. It gave me something to think about and to warn myself against. I think... I am sometimes too driven to make people happy and I could, i think, have stooped to that level. I could have done what she did. If you hadn't said what you said or linked the article, maybe I could have fucked something up like that, too. Now, though, I absolutely know I will not.

[she_wolf_j]

I suppose it's basically about people simply being... Well, as Last Psych put it (more or less), incapable of dealing with situations like that so they go with whatever seems best without thinking about the consequences all that much (if at all). Self-centeredness, surelly, but not on a grand consciouss level is my best bet

[leidhen]

The term hyena used by TLP is very fitting. I've seen this sort of people in funerals. I'm sorry you had to endure one of them yourself.

Do you read TLP frequently, by the way?

[she_wolf_j]

Methinks this time the "hyena" was as much a description as it was a sign of personal frustration. The one I had wasn't really a hyena... and that's the worst, actually. It *is* a case of "But I meant well!" after all. Though of course, self-centerdness aspect is most definitelly there.

And hells yeah! Checking TLP daily (or there about). Can't thank you enough for introducing me to that rare lucid jewel of the blogosphere. Just as I can never thank you enough for introducing me to the wonder that is Tim Minchin! ;)

[leidhen]

I may have been more harsh in agreeing with the term because of personal experience, but perhaps I shouldn't be. Though still, a lot of nasty things happen when people mean well but fail to actually think about the other person they mean to be nice to. It's difficult to be absolute when it comes to such things.

I suspect that some of TLP's posts are written under the influence. ;) But he's usually very astute and dares say things very few other people dare to say. Plenty food for thought there.

Another blog I'm reading lately is http://www.screedsandquibbles.org/ . You might find it interesting, too!

[she_wolf_j]

Aye, I saw that other blog and I remain completely unimpressed. That 'rabid atheists' post was such a load of utter bullshit the author instantly lost all credibility and respect with me. Didn't find any other posts of his to be much more than empty tripes either so think I'll skip that one. Much better stuff around the net to be followed imo - Pharyngula, SBM, JREF, Quackwatch, The Sceptics' Guide to the Universe, Phys.org, Life without a Net etc.