*choke* Must... vent...

[shesquint]

So, my friend has this girlfriend who's pretty awful. I get along with her. If I had only my interactions with her to go on, I'd probably like her. But the longer he dates her, the more she infuriates me

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[vicar]

You have no obligation to go, but don't just look at the twat as the problem - your friend is failing to take care of himself. You can't just blame the "bad person," because your friend has chosen to be with this twat and inflict her on you and the world at large. Your friend might be nice, but they are doing something wrong which brings others down too. Personal responsibility is a big umbrella.

[shesquint]

True, but it's not as cut-and-dried as that. If my being there for this silliness eases the burden on him--and it will--then I'll do it for his sake, because he'd do the same for me. And, hey, I get to hang out with Dave, so that's cool.

[freja999]

to add to the list

[shesquint]

Agreed on all counts except for the butt ugly part. She is plain, it's true, but she definitely has moments where she shines. And Dave likes the plain girls. It's the weirdest things. He likes 'em meaty and ever so slightly homely.

I think he stays with her because he would not be able to live with himself if he put her and the kid into an untenable living situation. Being nice can really get a person into trouble.

You're right about love being a gift and not a vein to tap, of course. She sees it as a vein to tap. I don't know where she developed that notion or why no one has seen fit to disabuse her of it.

[freja999]

I'll tell ya why she's butt ugly to me; She always scowls. You may have seen her being all shiny and such, but as often as I've encountered her over the years and as often as I tried to talk to her (and I'm SHY, Damn it!), she has always given me the cold shoulder, even shrugged and turn away from me as I talked to her. And that scowl? It turns what might be an otherwise lovely face rather froggish

[shesquint]

She is not one to be gracious to the pretty girls, unfortunately. (One more black mark on her record, that, and it's stupid of her; my best friends are pretty girls, except the ones who aren't girls at all.)

Someday when it comes up--and it will--I will mention what you said to Dave. I won't quote you directly and it certainly won't change anything right off the bat, but at least the seed will be there. Here's hoping he'll eventually take it and run with it.

[dahhae]

do i SERIOUSLY need to choke a bitch? or apply my fist to her face?

[shesquint]

Both, probably.

[unrepentant]

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