Grief

[shirlee53]

Today I got a call from Savannah to let me know that there was a death in the family. My ex-sister-in-law had just lost her sister. I felt so sad for her. My pain was deep. The reason I had this grief is because she reminded me of my nephew's death. She said, "At least my sister didn't die on the 16th." I realized, even though its been 2 years, she

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[radagast97]

I think the problem of her letting go of her nephew's death falls under something that they are now calling "Complex Grief". Apparently certain classes of grief are complicated by certain conditions - when someone close is murdered for instance. The injustice seems to complicate the process of letting go. Since the nephew's death was the result of actions which were never acknowledged as wrong or addressed legally, she's not able to let go. You and I have both had to deal with much more minor forms of this in our lives in the last few years. You are correct, you have to just look at the things you have, the good, all those things which are good in your life, but grief has a tendency of cancelling out any of the positives you feel about those things. Short of the positives left in her life being threatened, it's not just a simple case of saying "Snap out of it and cheer up".

Hugs,
your SAWB