Fed up
Or sick and tired. In the metaphorical sense.
Also, longest post in forever ends up being complaints.
I am conflicted. And so very fed up.
So I have two colleagues at work. Let's just call them A and B.
In my opinion, A is quick to anger, petty, holds silly grudges and in general very dismissive of things she does not agree with.
B is very, very stubborn and headstrong, she refuses to back down if she believes she is right.
A while ago while A and B were talking, B said, "Sh*t la you." to A. (Note that she says this to everyone who surprises her or startles her when saying something, she means no offense. It is simply an involuntary reaction.)
A, however, was offended by this and began to fume quietly, refusing to speak to B for offending her sensibilities (Hah)
B, didn't notice immediately, but eventually found that A no longer deemed speaking to her necessary while before this she would tease B.
So B consulted C about being given the cold shoulder and C confirmed the situation and having been in the same shoes, advised B to just wait for A to settle down. At which point B mentioned that A constantly says "celaka" to her when startled and she considers that very offensive. So A is being a hypocrite. B has since resolved to not speak to A until A speaks to her because, well, principles.
What utter nonsense.
And now, if I mention some of the odder things about B to A, A is immediately displeased and elaborates on how she believes things should be done to me, instead of dispensing her advice to B.
So whose side am I on? No one's. Not that anyone should bother to find out. Nor will I tell them.
To be frank, A does this way too often. I'm sick of this behaviour, after having been on the receiving end of it several times. I'm tired of not living up to your standards. Of watching what I say because she can't take a joke. She says if I don't like something about her I should tell her and she'll do her best to change. C and I agree that there is no way that she wouldn't go all defensive and angry first.
I just don't have the energy to deal with that.
As for B, her tendency to let expletives fall out of her mouth so casually should change. It's not just about the expletives either. Our company is Japanese. We work with them a lot. Their English comprehension sometimes leaves much to be desired.
B snorts at her superiors when she's frustrated or when they don't understand. Again, it's an involuntary reaction, she doesn't mean to be rude. She once snorted at a waiter because he didn't catch her order because it was too loud in the restaurant. It was not his fault.
So the fact is. Not speaking to each other over this tiny little incident is so juvenile. We are adults working as engineers for crying out loud. I cannot handle trying to initiate a conversation involving A and B only to have either awkwardly side-step it, have them go to C and through her communicate to me that they have not yet made up.
JUST GROW UP. You're not six year olds anymore, start behaving your age.
Or maybe I should just ignore this petty behaviour and be the one to grow up. BAH.
Also, longest post in forever ends up being complaints.
I am conflicted. And so very fed up.
So I have two colleagues at work. Let's just call them A and B.
In my opinion, A is quick to anger, petty, holds silly grudges and in general very dismissive of things she does not agree with.
B is very, very stubborn and headstrong, she refuses to back down if she believes she is right.
A while ago while A and B were talking, B said, "Sh*t la you." to A. (Note that she says this to everyone who surprises her or startles her when saying something, she means no offense. It is simply an involuntary reaction.)
A, however, was offended by this and began to fume quietly, refusing to speak to B for offending her sensibilities (Hah)
B, didn't notice immediately, but eventually found that A no longer deemed speaking to her necessary while before this she would tease B.
So B consulted C about being given the cold shoulder and C confirmed the situation and having been in the same shoes, advised B to just wait for A to settle down. At which point B mentioned that A constantly says "celaka" to her when startled and she considers that very offensive. So A is being a hypocrite. B has since resolved to not speak to A until A speaks to her because, well, principles.
What utter nonsense.
And now, if I mention some of the odder things about B to A, A is immediately displeased and elaborates on how she believes things should be done to me, instead of dispensing her advice to B.
So whose side am I on? No one's. Not that anyone should bother to find out. Nor will I tell them.
To be frank, A does this way too often. I'm sick of this behaviour, after having been on the receiving end of it several times. I'm tired of not living up to your standards. Of watching what I say because she can't take a joke. She says if I don't like something about her I should tell her and she'll do her best to change. C and I agree that there is no way that she wouldn't go all defensive and angry first.
I just don't have the energy to deal with that.
As for B, her tendency to let expletives fall out of her mouth so casually should change. It's not just about the expletives either. Our company is Japanese. We work with them a lot. Their English comprehension sometimes leaves much to be desired.
B snorts at her superiors when she's frustrated or when they don't understand. Again, it's an involuntary reaction, she doesn't mean to be rude. She once snorted at a waiter because he didn't catch her order because it was too loud in the restaurant. It was not his fault.
So the fact is. Not speaking to each other over this tiny little incident is so juvenile. We are adults working as engineers for crying out loud. I cannot handle trying to initiate a conversation involving A and B only to have either awkwardly side-step it, have them go to C and through her communicate to me that they have not yet made up.
JUST GROW UP. You're not six year olds anymore, start behaving your age.
Or maybe I should just ignore this petty behaviour and be the one to grow up. BAH.