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[shypurplepanda]

So today, my mom and I went to Costco. I really didn't want to go, but we were on the phone and she wanted me to break down how much I make vs. my bills for her. "I knew there was no way you were making it. I used to take you to costco all the time and I haven't done that in a while, how much are you spending on food? Why didn't you come to me

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[abunchofcrap]

I always tell my dad I'm fine financially, when I'm not haha. My mom is the only one that knows I've screwed myself over. My dad is just kind of confused about how I afford stuff, but doesn't ask. ;)
My dad would like, murder me or something if he really knew a lot of the things that happen in my life.

I give up on 30 Claypigs. 20 Claypigs is enough Claypigs.

[surrealmisery21]

I always feel guilty when people help me with money problems too! So you're not alone.

[in_xanadu]

I don't know if you're a religious person... But I am. I know, I know... I don't really portray that much. But in my heart, I truly am. And one of the things that all religions I've studied teaches is: charity. Charity is pure love... It's all the components of love. If you're Christian it's the pure love of Christ. If you're not, then it's generosity, kindness, mercy, love of others and self.

I think that to be charitable is one of the greatest things a person can do. To be willing to give and help and love is pretty much the ultimate thing you can do for your fellow man or woman. Charity not only blesses the person who it is for, but also the people performing it. The only thing greater than charity coming from a pure heart is to be willing to accept the charity graciously.

You are amazing and wonderful and sweet and kind. Allow your mom and stepdad to get the blessings from helping you. Don't feel guilty or like a failure... Your father only says those things to alleviate the guilt he must feel for not helping you

[shypurplepanda]

I know i didn't reply to your last comment, but this is for both. Thank you so much for everything you've said. It helps, I'm afraid to write about this stuff, but it's good for the feedback, you helped me look at it in a slightly different light and that helps. Everything you said makes sense, it really does. And no, I'm not religious, but that doesn't stop the things you've said from making sense to me.

[eazyt]

I have known people with money problems, and I have always said that simply paying for their stuff or giving handouts isn't the answer. At best, it makes them feel guilty, at worst, freeloaders are created or sustained. The best help that can be given is to teach people how to properly manage the money they have, and if possible, how to grow their incomes. In many cases I have been more then willing to sit down with someone and go through their finances with them, create a budget, savings plan, perhaps even some mid-term investments. However, this is usually met with resistance on their parts, or a lackadasical attitude about any advice given (ie, just saying yes to everything and never doing it) which has always confused me. If anyone were to come to me and say, "I can show you how to make more money and keep more of what you make" I'd drop what I was doing and listen intentively in a heartbeat

[shypurplepanda]

Actually, that is something I have considdered, but over the past 5 or 6th months, I've finally figured out how to live within my means. (excluding the obvious credit card problems I caused myself in the past) I think I'm gonna see how long this lasts, and go from there.

[notsoperky]

Moms have to help, its a dna thing!