Step I/Question VI: Do you isolate yourself/how?

[freyjalee]

Step I/Question V:  Do you isolate yourself? If yes, how?

I don't normally look at it as 'I isolate myself'.  I just happen to spend a lot of time alone/with very limited people.

The only people in my circle are my three children and my fiance.  I don't talk to my family and since ending unhealthy relationships with past friends and my children's

Comments

[a1autotransprt]

I understand what you mean. I believe it is something us introverted people do. I am not sure why this happens, but it may be because we like staying in our comfort zones. Try to start small, like when you are in a group setting, maybe picking out one person to introduce yourself to and having a casual small chat. I know it can be nerve-racking, but it will actually be worth practicing. Good luck!

[llomf]

Good idea. I have behaved in similar ways in the past. Now I have very little social life away from work so I don't deal with many of those issues. I guess I've effectively isolated myself to a greater degree.

[freyjalee]

Focusing on one person in a group is a good suggestion, as a starting point. The problem is when I get pulled into the conversation by someone and all eyes turn on me. Also, going to support groups and not being able to share. It's always awkward to continually go to support groups where everyone shares and every week, I have to pass because I can't speak without going into a panic attack. But yes, as an exercise to build myself up, it is a starting point.

[a1autotransprt]

yes it can be pretty scary when you are the center of attention among a big group. I think that it will also help these days by joining some virtual webinars or meetups with the pandemic going on. It can be a fun way to talk to people and be a little less awkward because you are in front of a camera and not physically in a large group.

[pepperhutch]

are you feeling awkward like you dont fit in when u isolate in group settings or are you just not interested in being were ur at and hope no some notices you? as for adult children of a spouse been there done it the son married my twin sister and the daughter hated me found every and any way to have me get a beaten from her daddy yuck daddy as she called him made me sick to my stomach