Decisions, Decisions

[sifaka_the_gort]

So after all this time freaking out about being homeless I now have two places to decide between. I mean, I may not get one of them, but the other is in the bag, and I can't accept it until I decide. I cannot do this without my tools of decision: pro/con lists, and feedback from others

Comments

[shmitz]

To me, place #1 sounds a whole lot better. But then, my opinion also involves the fact that a) I need physical security, and b) I don't need physical community, so take that into consideration given your own needs.

[sifaka_the_gort]

Yeah, I decided to go with that one. I'm just in the mood for a safe place to nest. I think it's because winter's coming, and last winter I was outside the whole time, and this attic room looks like a cozy little place to hole up when it's cold and rainy.

[del_chan]

Living in a community sounds like it's been really awesome for you, but you've been doing it a lot recently. I know if I were you, I'd be ready for a more solitary place right about now, and I know you've got alone-projects like your writing that you'd probably be able to concentrate on better in Place #1. Also, I think getting out of your house and finding communities, instead of assuming you'll always be living right in the middle of them, is a really important skill to pick up, because if you can learn that, you can be happy anywhere.

And it certainly sounds like Place #2 is amicable to folks knocking on the door and hanging out for the day, so why not make a habit of that?

[sifaka_the_gort]

Wow, that's a heaping pile of really good advice. Thank you.

It's not that I'm ready for a solitary place, and may never be. I just function better with people, and my own room (or even sharing with someone) is enough solitary for me(i.e. no longer living with eight to twelve other people in a public space like on the boats). However, your point about learning how to find communties is a really, really good one. And berkeley is certainly a place I can do that. Yes I love it when I have a group of friends to live with so when I'm sad I can join a snuggle pile and when I'm hungry we make pancakes together. But that will just have to motivate to get out and visit.

Speaking of which, if you guys ever want to visit the bay I now have a place you can crash. I'll even have a bed, because the room comes with one and I still have the futon I've been using this summer, which will get turned into a couch/guest bed.

[brianfey]

Good to have sanctuary (#1) and go visit the more chaotic spaces.

[ex_genderbe]

Hooray for place number #1!!!