Girl you are so much stronger than you know. What you need is a cause or something to work for that you love. And you can always come visit the bay area, but what you need to learn that home isn't a place but a feeling. And it goes for the Bay Area too. You just need to build that network of friends and places. I wish I had known that you were hating things so bad like two weeks ago, as I would have sent you to meet a group of friends.
Questions: Have you been sailing recently? Have you gone hiking recently? Why aren't you recycling?
Girl I miss you!!! We should get together when I'm down there. BIG HUGS!!!
I have not been sailing. I hike for a living. I'm not sure. Partially because it's so hard - we saved up all our recylcing for the first couple of months and it took over our kitchen and then we drove it all up to the Bay Area when we were visiting and dumped it in someone's cans. Our building doesn't have a recycling dumpster, I've tried to arrange to get one, the waste company puts me on hold and doesn't return my calls. And the recycling center down the street is never open. Really, truly, never open. Once we left bags of reclcing on the street outside, and later worried we might have had bank statements or credit card info in there.
I know I need a network of friends, I just don't know how to find it. This city is vast and unfriendly.
We should get together. I talked to Newt on the phone and realized I haven't seen him in over a year. It's been the same with you.
We should do a reunion BBQ or something. Either way I'll be down there in a couple of weeks, and we should definatly get together.
As for a network of friends, do you do anything that is done with others? What about taking a class at the local college? Or an art class? or a dance class? Or volunteer for a non-profit down there. I realize LA is vast and unfriendly, but I have faith in you. And I know that you will have a crazy cirle of friends soon, becuase I cherish you as a friend and people would be missing out.
In fact I have some insecurities that have been popping up about getting to be with him that I've got to learn to deal with (I am worthy of physical desire, I am worthy of physical desire).
Amazingly so.
You really do have an unresolvable dilemma on your hands :-\ How about savings towards some travel with him? And of course there's Burning Man coming up, are you going together?
He doesn't want to travel with me. It's the one way we're not perfectly matched - he doens't want to be adventurous, travel guy. He's stable, commitment man. He can't leave his bands or his work or his school. If he could we'd be living together in the bay area, which is my biggest dream. Someday he'd like to go on tour though, and I'd go with him.
We are going to Burning Man for sure, bought our tickets months ago. Will we see you there?
I haven't bought tickets nor made firm plans for Burning Man, but I am mentally there for it this year and just need to find a few folks to drive with.
About travel, what about just going to see places for a few weeks at a time? Europe by backpack, and all that jazz! :-)
There are lots of places in LA that have fewer soul-sucking, isolating attributes; why are you stuck on defining Downtown as all there is to it? There's Venice, there's Burbank; hell, most parts of OC or the San Fernando Valley are 500 times more comfortable to bike in and meet awesome people and recycle. Can you afford to move? Can Sam commute 30 minutes to work? And doesn't he already drive all over the place for his bands?
You are worthy of environmental satisfaction, you are worth of environmental satisfaction. And I think you've got to talk to Sam about how you can work together to accommodate that, because it's as important as any other aspect of your relationship.
i understand where you are coming from. i don't know when life got full of having to make these kinds of horrible dichotomous choices where it seems like you are going to have to gut yourself whichever way you decide to turn. What happened to being able to find a Happy Medium?? However...You are amazing and completely worthy of love, adventure, happiness and all of the peace, love and joy that come with them - i'm with Allison on this one... if this is your man, and he is the guy that you are going to spend the rest of your life with, then you have plenty of time to go be yourself and have an adventure or two and breath a bit with out compromising the integrity of your relationship.
Think about it babe, you've gone from zero to life-long-commitment-and-sacrifice in a VERY short period of time. There is bound to be a bit of whiplash in there somewhere. take some time to breath and for fuck-sake, get yourself out of this godforsaken city for a while (even a very short while)
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Girl you are so much stronger than you know. What you need is a cause or something to work for that you love. And you can always come visit the bay area, but what you need to learn that home isn't a place but a feeling. And it goes for the Bay Area too. You just need to build that network of friends and places. I wish I had known that you were hating things so bad like two weeks ago, as I would have sent you to meet a group of friends.
Questions:
Have you been sailing recently?
Have you gone hiking recently?
Why aren't you recycling?
Girl I miss you!!! We should get together when I'm down there. BIG HUGS!!!
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I hike for a living.
I'm not sure. Partially because it's so hard - we saved up all our recylcing for the first couple of months and it took over our kitchen and then we drove it all up to the Bay Area when we were visiting and dumped it in someone's cans. Our building doesn't have a recycling dumpster, I've tried to arrange to get one, the waste company puts me on hold and doesn't return my calls. And the recycling center down the street is never open. Really, truly, never open. Once we left bags of reclcing on the street outside, and later worried we might have had bank statements or credit card info in there.
I know I need a network of friends, I just don't know how to find it. This city is vast and unfriendly.
We should get together. I talked to Newt on the phone and realized I haven't seen him in over a year. It's been the same with you.
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We should do a reunion BBQ or something. Either way I'll be down there in a couple of weeks, and we should definatly get together.
As for a network of friends, do you do anything that is done with others? What about taking a class at the local college? Or an art class? or a dance class? Or volunteer for a non-profit down there. I realize LA is vast and unfriendly, but I have faith in you. And I know that you will have a crazy cirle of friends soon, becuase I cherish you as a friend and people would be missing out.
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Amazingly so.
You really do have an unresolvable dilemma on your hands :-\ How about savings towards some travel with him? And of course there's Burning Man coming up, are you going together?
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He doesn't want to travel with me. It's the one way we're not perfectly matched - he doens't want to be adventurous, travel guy. He's stable, commitment man. He can't leave his bands or his work or his school. If he could we'd be living together in the bay area, which is my biggest dream. Someday he'd like to go on tour though, and I'd go with him.
We are going to Burning Man for sure, bought our tickets months ago. Will we see you there?
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About travel, what about just going to see places for a few weeks at a time? Europe by backpack, and all that jazz! :-)
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You are worthy of environmental satisfaction, you are worth of environmental satisfaction. And I think you've got to talk to Sam about how you can work together to accommodate that, because it's as important as any other aspect of your relationship.
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However...You are amazing and completely worthy of love, adventure, happiness and all of the peace, love and joy that come with them - i'm with Allison on this one... if this is your man, and he is the guy that you are going to spend the rest of your life with, then you have plenty of time to go be yourself and have an adventure or two and breath a bit with out compromising the integrity of your relationship.
Think about it babe, you've gone from zero to life-long-commitment-and-sacrifice in a VERY short period of time. There is bound to be a bit of whiplash in there somewhere. take some time to breath and for fuck-sake, get yourself out of this godforsaken city for a while (even a very short while)
much love :)
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