You're compassionate, kind, and seem to genuinely want to take care of other people.
But oftentimes I feel like you don't take care of yourself and you do things for the wrong reason by doing what other people want and not what will make you happy.
Stick up for yourself, fight your battles, don't give in and wait for silver linings on clouds you won't get them from.
And as an addendum, I sometimes feel like I can't be completely honest with you because you have such high expectations for other people that you will be disappointed if you hear the whole truth.
You're right. On the doing things for the wrong reasons. I'm a self-effacer, it's something I'm working on. Can I ask for examples on doing things for the wrong reasons? I know there are examples in my past, I'm just curious which ones you, as a reader of my journal, are thinking of:P
On the addendum, I'm sorry you feel that way, and I suspect you're not the only one of my LJ friends who feel this way, and God, I wish you all didn't, but I know who and what I am, and I know what I've done to make you feel like this. I'm sorry.
I can't come up with examples off the top of my head sans one, which would reveal easily who I am and therefore makes it a bit foolish to post anonymously (and for this first half of the comment, the anonymity doesn't bother me, it's part two.) I've noticed it more than that once (it is only the one that comes most readily to mind) and it sometimes makes me fear that you don't know how to care for yourself in a way, because you seem so reluctant to put your priorities first. Selflessness is a wonderful quality provided it doesn't begin to erode your own self-preservation
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Oh, I'm totally judgemental;) No, I'm sorry. I'm judgemental about one thing; drugs. And I'm trying SO SO SO HARD to stop because it's none of my business what my friends do with their own bodies. And I'm getting better. Anything else, I'd like to believe that I'm a pretty good friend. But you know, your perception is your perception, and if there's something I can do to change it, do let me know?
And I'm very thankful that you worry about my self-preservation. I sometimes worry about my self-preservation. I've taken steps in the right direction, I think. But seriously, thank you.
You hurt me, and I'm having a hard time moving past that. I've also got some trust issues with you; whether or not they have a basis in reality, I have good reason for the suspicions that founded them.
I'm sorry I hurt you. I'm sorry that you have trust issues with me, and I would really like to know what the suspicions are based on, because I would really like to set any record straight, and make it up to you if I can.
I like you - I don't always agree with you, especially with regard to politics - but I don't always agree with lots of other people either.
The only thing I would say is that I used to like reading your journal and I wish that you would post more and twitter less. But it's your journal and you can post in it as you wish.
Well, the best example of an over-all trait was when your birth control was all wonky so you had no sex drive but you still made certain your mate's needs were satisfied. I know you caught some flack for it, but still. That sort of looking out for your mate even when things are tough is the exact thing that makes marriages last, and the thing that too few marriages in this world have. Many, many people marry for what they can get out of it and bail when things get tough or aren't what they imagined. You don't have that attitude. That's impressive.
You also don't wank, or if you have I've never seen it. And by wank I mean devolving into, "OMG ur such a misogynist! ppl only hate weir if they hate all womn i bet ur even ok with rape!!!!11!!!" (I may have lost a couple of brain cells typing that example.) You don't even get McKay at people, writing something like, "you are wrong, wrong, wrong and they could write sonnets about how wrong you are."
How do I disappoint you?I wouldn't call it disappoint, but I do
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But oftentimes I feel like you don't take care of yourself and you do things for the wrong reason by doing what other people want and not what will make you happy.
Stick up for yourself, fight your battles, don't give in and wait for silver linings on clouds you won't get them from.
And as an addendum, I sometimes feel like I can't be completely honest with you because you have such high expectations for other people that you will be disappointed if you hear the whole truth.
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On the addendum, I'm sorry you feel that way, and I suspect you're not the only one of my LJ friends who feel this way, and God, I wish you all didn't, but I know who and what I am, and I know what I've done to make you feel like this. I'm sorry.
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And I'm very thankful that you worry about my self-preservation. I sometimes worry about my self-preservation. I've taken steps in the right direction, I think. But seriously, thank you.
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I like you - I don't always agree with you, especially with regard to politics - but I don't always agree with lots of other people either.
The only thing I would say is that I used to like reading your journal and I wish that you would post more and twitter less. But it's your journal and you can post in it as you wish.
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Well, the best example of an over-all trait was when your birth control was all wonky so you had no sex drive but you still made certain your mate's needs were satisfied. I know you caught some flack for it, but still. That sort of looking out for your mate even when things are tough is the exact thing that makes marriages last, and the thing that too few marriages in this world have. Many, many people marry for what they can get out of it and bail when things get tough or aren't what they imagined. You don't have that attitude. That's impressive.
You also don't wank, or if you have I've never seen it. And by wank I mean devolving into, "OMG ur such a misogynist! ppl only hate weir if they hate all womn i bet ur even ok with rape!!!!11!!!" (I may have lost a couple of brain cells typing that example.) You don't even get McKay at people, writing something like, "you are wrong, wrong, wrong and they could write sonnets about how wrong you are."
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