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The Guide to Getting Dumped and Taking It Like a Champ

Apr 05, 2006 15:50

The guide to being dumped, and taking it like a champ.Being dumped sucks ( Read more... )

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littlegiggles April 5 2006, 21:46:02 UTC

well said.
am i allowed to disagree with your thoughts on denial?
or is this not the time or place?

sigmatism April 5 2006, 22:30:52 UTC

you are most definitely allowed. Any comments/advice is definitely appreciated.

littlegiggles April 6 2006, 06:09:25 UTC

i think that moving on from a relationship is all about denial, whether you admit it or not (i could go into the irony there, but i'll refrain). i think that if you truly love/care about someone then you probably always will care about them, you probably always will love them, and if you wanted to be with them yesterday you'll want to be with them today. as a result, when you act like you don't want to be (which you most certainly should).... you're in denial. I don't get over people. I don't stop loving people, and in all honesty i usually don't stop wanting to be with them. There are people i've been with.... hell, there i people that I broke up with, that I want to be with to this day if i'm honest with myself. True, i don't want to be with them enough to actually do so, or i would. But if i'm honest, part of me wants to be.... and i act like i don't. And when they pop up in my everyday thoughts, i don't think about wanting to be with them. I think of them as a stranger, or as a friend, or as someone i used to know ( ... )

sigmatism April 7 2006, 02:33:43 UTC

You are 100% right, but the context I was using denial in, is creating a huge illusion about the situation itself (like "hey, she still likes me, and things will work out. This isn't the end."), not necessarily how you feel about the person (your context of denial) (ie. "I dont love her love or care for her anymore" when you know you really do). In which case I totally agree with you.

ps. I love how I dont even follow my own advice, hah...

:/

Thread 5

_glowinthedark April 6 2006, 05:17:24 UTC

probably the best entry i've ever read.
thanks.

and,yeah,this is true:
It's almost certain that anyone who has read this and is going to get dumped for their first time will not follow my advice.

sigmatism April 7 2006, 02:37:31 UTC

Thank you very much :)

lastcupofsorrow April 7 2006, 02:39:27 UTC

i'll read this some day.
its just so long.
and i have a great thursday night ahead of me.not