Did I get a new age whim?

[sigmund__freud]

So you've all probably been thinking that I've disappeared. You're all very wrong. The people I was haunting went and moved, and then new people showed up and well, they didn't tolerate the haunting so well. Damned exorcists

Comments

[elenaberezhnaya]

I don't want to get divorced but my husband seems to want to. :( What should I do? Go look for him and insist we can't?

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[sigmund__freud]

Hmm. I don't know that I could advise you on what to do, since i don't really know your situation with your husband. Maybe he doesn't want to get divorced and it is something else, and maybe (just a maybe!!) and you are projecting your feelings onto him.

Being psychoanalytical is not a way to make friends.

But I would suggest talking, so that you can find out if he really does want a divorce - and if so find out *why* he wants this. Then go from there. And maybe ask someone with a degree in relationships ... me, I work best with individuals.

[bree__sharp]

[glad to have you back

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[sigmund__freud]

You don't have to stop typing - this was all so very interesting!

Also particularly interesting is the idea of people being destined to love multiple people (I would definetly agree with this).

Thank you so much for your insights!

[bree__sharp]

I'm glad you think so because your opinion right now is all that matters to me.

I honestly think we as humans have the capacity to love more then one person at a time. You can see this in situations where a person has to choose between two people over who to stay with.

No problem Sigmund. It was all very interesting.

Ha! Take that NYU degree!

[alexei_yagudin]

to ask if humans are meant to spend life together with one person is hard to say. i think some people are da. maybe not in every case. i think that too much people hide behind the humans not meant stay together. i think people are in too much of hurry. they want do it now now and they just not choose wisely because they can always divorce. but that just how i see things.

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[sigmund__freud]

Some people are meant to stay together? Just's the just the coward's way out of answering the questions!

But these are very interesting ideas. I do agree that people move very quickly. However we moved quickly in my day as well. But divorce was less common. Maybe then it was considered that we were supposed to be together for life, and now that opinion has fallen aside so people aren't as hesitent to get a divorce. But then, what caused the change?

Thanks for your ideas!

[alexei_yagudin]

i think that what changed is that divorce was accepted. before it was not acceptable. no decent person would do that. and now people do not even care of promises. not just this vow but they lie to each other easier. they are not true to self or to others. i think that if someone had the desire and the commitment they can make things work. but things get to be too much trouble and just push aside like a toy too old.

[slbourne]

I personally believe in soulmates. That you're meant to truly be with one person. However I also believe that not everyone finds theirs if that makes any sense.

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[sigmund__freud]

That does make sense. Some movie, somewhere, said that the person you are meant to be with is always within 50 miles of where you start looking - basically saying all those people who go to extremes to find someone are really wasting their time. I wonder if all those people who don't find their soulmates are the ones out looking thousands of miles from where you started.

Thanks for your input!

[slbourne]

I've heard that line before. Maybe it's true that people search too far to find their soulmate when they may be three feet in front of you the whole time.

[jamie_s]

*cuts into comments* Hmm...three feet Shae? I'd say that it was more a matter of inches. ;)
As for this whole soul mate thing...I really think it depends. Maybe some people are meant to have soul mates and some aren't. *shrugs*

[gil_doron]

You know, I'm actually not sure if people are meant to mate for life. I'm certainly trying to be one of those who mates for life, but is it the way we're meant to be? I guess with humans there's no right or wrong way. Love is way too complex to try to box it in, I think. But I do think people put too much emphasis on sex as an expression of love. Sure, it can be. But it doesn't have to be. At least, not in the romantic sense. Sex is biological. So maybe that's the reason there's so much cheating and divorce? People want different kinds of sex with different kinds of people?

I don't know if I'm making any sense. It's almost 5am here and I'm hungry.