I can identify with the being raked over the coals thing. The Idol community is like a safe sanctuary after what happened to me in the Sims community and its "secret" community. Supposedly modeled on PostSecret, but people used it to anonymously bully and insult others. When my Sims story became well-known, I became a target and it got really bad.
It was hard because it was a few of my in-laws and some still feel I should still spend a lot of time with them in person even though they basically don't like anything about me and told several others how horrible they think I am.
I still think I made the right choice deleting and blocking them and I don't think I need to spend time with them. I just hate that this same issue probably will keep coming up as my mom-in-law thinks I should just move on and still spend time with the ones who did this.
I hate that you had to go through it too. Online bullying just really hurts.
I hope you have moved past it somehow and found other good communities online now?
My marriage started online but yes, I do think online relationships can be sometimes easier (like you said, you can turn off computer any time) but also harder at times (like you said, online people can't see how they hurt us.)
I'm sad you've also had difficult online experiences.
I rely heavily on body language when dealing with people. However, I find it very amusing that I can't pull one over on Dragon. A lot of our relationship is online but he always knows when I'm not being honest about something, unless he's 'very' distracted.
I hope you are right. The way technology is moving keeping our children glued to a device for communication in their hands at all times makes me worry about their future. Weel written, as usual.
The internet has a lot of great uses but it also has a lot of things I wish I could change.
For me, the internet is good because I distance-learn my university studies rather than go to an actual university, and although all my textbooks are actual physical textbooks, to submit assignments or talk to other students in my tutor group, (I can't make the tutorials, costs a bomb in train fares/petrol) I have to use the internet. I do miss the 'human interaction' of learning however, and I miss the classroom/peer/teacher dynamics, which unfortunately online classes cannot provide as well.
I've made friends on the internet, both connecting with old friends and also making new ones, but I was having this debate with some guild friends (I play games online >_<) about how easy it is to become 'attached' to people who do not necessarily feel the same way back. We have a guild member who is very affectionate, but we don't know him that well, and so it's a little awkward because he's full-blown
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*hugs* I hope you're doing better now.
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I still think I made the right choice deleting and blocking them and I don't think I need to spend time with them. I just hate that this same issue probably will keep coming up as my mom-in-law thinks I should just move on and still spend time with the ones who did this.
I hate that you had to go through it too. Online bullying just really hurts.
I hope you have moved past it somehow and found other good communities online now?
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I'm sad you've also had difficult online experiences.
Thank you for sharing your perspective!
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I miss that friend very much.
It's rare to find someone who can do that.
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Weel written, as usual.
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The internet has a lot of great uses but it also has a lot of things I wish I could change.
For me, the internet is good because I distance-learn my university studies rather than go to an actual university, and although all my textbooks are actual physical textbooks, to submit assignments or talk to other students in my tutor group, (I can't make the tutorials, costs a bomb in train fares/petrol) I have to use the internet. I do miss the 'human interaction' of learning however, and I miss the classroom/peer/teacher dynamics, which unfortunately online classes cannot provide as well.
I've made friends on the internet, both connecting with old friends and also making new ones, but I was having this debate with some guild friends (I play games online >_<) about how easy it is to become 'attached' to people who do not necessarily feel the same way back. We have a guild member who is very affectionate, but we don't know him that well, and so it's a little awkward because he's full-blown ( ... )
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