Thinking

[similiesslip]

Now, to preface this, let me say that I am "in a traditional family structure."  So I am not saying it is wrong to be so.

I was reading this article though:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/soraya-chemaly/message-to-girls-about-re_b_1518849.html#s327357&title=Rev_Dr_Sharon

Which made me think more about WHY so many conservative people seem to be against

Comments

[medleymisty]

My father died when I had just turned seven

[similiesslip]

I agree with a lot of what you said but especially the "mental illness" part. Should a wife submit to a man/partner who ...mental illness can really mess up situations and yet I know people who preserve the intact family at any cost..

It's not always healthy. No one talks about that very often. They just keep writing religious marriage books that promise, "if you continue to submit, eventually he will change and things will be perfect. And if they never are, God will honor your submission, even if all else falls to heck. So keep submitting."

I don't think that is a good way to counsel people.

[halfshellvenus]

I would never have thought about it until you said it, but yes-- some of the objections to same-sex partners may be that there is no perceived power structure.

Heaven knows, my Dad (who is a psychiatrist and should know better) will still refer to gay couples like everyone else of his generation: speculation on which is the "dominant" one. I told him, "There doesn't need to be a dominant anything," and he readily agreed, but his knee-jerk reaction is still generationally-based.

I do think you see more of that expectation of deference by women in the South (also the Midwest). The East and West coast tend to be different from other parts of the country.

One of the things I've never liked is the side-effect of that model, which is that while women are supposed to defer to men and play up their egos and let them have all the power... no one much objects to them manipulation the hell out of those men. You know-- it's all right to run the show if you're not obvious about it! Always makes me think of Nancy Reagan