Intentioning for "Man of my Dreams"
My friend recently reposted hers. So I figured that I should do the same.
My future husband/ love of my life.
In terms of looks:I don't think I have that many requirements. Then again, who knows
- Tall!! At least 5'9".
Yeah, that is about right. I have dated some ugly mother fuckers so looks don't bother me much. Oh, wait
- Teeth. He must have most of them Preferably whitish with no real bad breath.
- Cleanliness
- Weight. I am not picky. I just hope he is not skeletal in term of being thin, nor can he be Manuel Uribe fat. He must be mobile. 4
- Recently, I have talked with anyone from "White" to "African American" to in between. Yes, it would be nice if he were latino since that is familiar to me, but at this time I have no preference.
- Minimal to no use of weed. Trust me, overuse of the green impacts certain people's looks over time (and smells *ugh*).
Above all, as long as there is a "spark", I am good.
Most requirements that I do have are about his personality:
- He must be compassionate. And kind, to a point. Not as ridiculous as I am but, at least understands why I am kind.
- He must be patient. At least with me, his family, animals and children
- He must be honest. Not rudely honest, but honest.
- He must be trustworthy!!! I am not doing that again. If he feels at all like a "gaslighter" or a guy who talks in circles, he is not for me.
- He must respect me for who I am and yet encourage me to be my best. I will return the favor.
- He must be self-reliant to an extent.
- Going along with respecting who I am, he must respect that I need my alone time as well as time to be "Aspie as I wanna be". I will respect his need for football/ hobbies/ nothing box and whatever he likes to fill his "nothing" box with (the "nothing box" is a reference for time spent doing nothing but unwinding and nonstressful thinking).
- He must love animals. Would be nice if he liked animals more than people.
- He must be even tempered. I will not date an ogre. I will not live in fear again.
- He must be intelligent. Would be nice if he was creative but hardly a necessity.
- He must like the outdoors. And traveling. Would be nice if he liked camping.
- He must be sociable to a degree but over his "party animal" ways.
- He must speak English (not ghetto) as his first language. Would be nice if he spoke Spanish. I did want a Spanglish household.
- Would be nice if he had a sense of humor. Kinda could just laugh along for the ride.But also has limits to his sense of humor. He makes me laugh but doesn't willfully embarrass me for "fun"
- Would be nice if he was "handy". I can hang pictures and such but more than that, I am screwed.
- Would be nice if he was "car knowledgeable". Not a requirement by a long shot, but would be nice. I can handle simple stuff. Change a tire. Change the oil. Jumper cable. Beyond that, I need to call AAA.
- Would be nice if we had plenty of the same interests, including music. But, differences in certain areas can be a good thing, since I love learning and being exposed to different types of music and hobbies.
- Computers: Would be nice if he knew his way around them. Going along with the trust factor, I must trust that he doesn't have 12 different accounts on dating websites and such.
Religious preference: For practical purposes, I could not date a strongly focused Christian or Muslim simply because there is too much conflicting religious beliefs. If he is atheist, he must respect my Paganism. Any other religion, or lack thereof, is welcome.
He must also respect that along with the Aspieness comes the over sensitivity to people's emotions. I figure this is a bonus for him, since most men like their alone time, like their time for hobbies, and dislike conflict almost as much as I do.
Job:
- He must have a career that he is set in.
- He must be a good work ethic.
- Financial Security a big must
Car:
- He either must have one, or live in an area easily surrounded by PT.
Place:
- He must either have one, or at least many years experience living on his own knowing what a budget is and bills are.
- If he does live at home with his parents, there must be a good reason
Sex:
- He must be sexually adventurous. I guess my only hard core preference.....hmm...to say this in a ladylike way....he must be into being a "cunning linguist". Hell giving back is not an issue.
- Along with sex, must enjoy cuddling. And being affectionate. Because I do.
- I have yet to meet a guy NOT into my kinks (hair pulling, spanking) but still....would be nice.
I don't care if he has kids. It is almost preferable since I am on the fence about kids. I do care if he has hard core BMD. Get that shit settled. And the divorced finalized.
This is all my brain has at the moment. I am trying to go through my friends list to see if I missed anything. Also, feel free to comment on anything I may have missed.
My future husband/ love of my life.
In terms of looks:I don't think I have that many requirements. Then again, who knows
- Tall!! At least 5'9".
Yeah, that is about right. I have dated some ugly mother fuckers so looks don't bother me much. Oh, wait
- Teeth. He must have most of them Preferably whitish with no real bad breath.
- Cleanliness
- Weight. I am not picky. I just hope he is not skeletal in term of being thin, nor can he be Manuel Uribe fat. He must be mobile. 4
- Recently, I have talked with anyone from "White" to "African American" to in between. Yes, it would be nice if he were latino since that is familiar to me, but at this time I have no preference.
- Minimal to no use of weed. Trust me, overuse of the green impacts certain people's looks over time (and smells *ugh*).
Above all, as long as there is a "spark", I am good.
Most requirements that I do have are about his personality:
- He must be compassionate. And kind, to a point. Not as ridiculous as I am but, at least understands why I am kind.
- He must be patient. At least with me, his family, animals and children
- He must be honest. Not rudely honest, but honest.
- He must be trustworthy!!! I am not doing that again. If he feels at all like a "gaslighter" or a guy who talks in circles, he is not for me.
- He must respect me for who I am and yet encourage me to be my best. I will return the favor.
- He must be self-reliant to an extent.
- Going along with respecting who I am, he must respect that I need my alone time as well as time to be "Aspie as I wanna be". I will respect his need for football/ hobbies/ nothing box and whatever he likes to fill his "nothing" box with (the "nothing box" is a reference for time spent doing nothing but unwinding and nonstressful thinking).
- He must love animals. Would be nice if he liked animals more than people.
- He must be even tempered. I will not date an ogre. I will not live in fear again.
- He must be intelligent. Would be nice if he was creative but hardly a necessity.
- He must like the outdoors. And traveling. Would be nice if he liked camping.
- He must be sociable to a degree but over his "party animal" ways.
- He must speak English (not ghetto) as his first language. Would be nice if he spoke Spanish. I did want a Spanglish household.
- Would be nice if he had a sense of humor. Kinda could just laugh along for the ride.But also has limits to his sense of humor. He makes me laugh but doesn't willfully embarrass me for "fun"
- Would be nice if he was "handy". I can hang pictures and such but more than that, I am screwed.
- Would be nice if he was "car knowledgeable". Not a requirement by a long shot, but would be nice. I can handle simple stuff. Change a tire. Change the oil. Jumper cable. Beyond that, I need to call AAA.
- Would be nice if we had plenty of the same interests, including music. But, differences in certain areas can be a good thing, since I love learning and being exposed to different types of music and hobbies.
- Computers: Would be nice if he knew his way around them. Going along with the trust factor, I must trust that he doesn't have 12 different accounts on dating websites and such.
Religious preference: For practical purposes, I could not date a strongly focused Christian or Muslim simply because there is too much conflicting religious beliefs. If he is atheist, he must respect my Paganism. Any other religion, or lack thereof, is welcome.
He must also respect that along with the Aspieness comes the over sensitivity to people's emotions. I figure this is a bonus for him, since most men like their alone time, like their time for hobbies, and dislike conflict almost as much as I do.
Job:
- He must have a career that he is set in.
- He must be a good work ethic.
- Financial Security a big must
Car:
- He either must have one, or live in an area easily surrounded by PT.
Place:
- He must either have one, or at least many years experience living on his own knowing what a budget is and bills are.
- If he does live at home with his parents, there must be a good reason
Sex:
- He must be sexually adventurous. I guess my only hard core preference.....hmm...to say this in a ladylike way....he must be into being a "cunning linguist". Hell giving back is not an issue.
- Along with sex, must enjoy cuddling. And being affectionate. Because I do.
- I have yet to meet a guy NOT into my kinks (hair pulling, spanking) but still....would be nice.
I don't care if he has kids. It is almost preferable since I am on the fence about kids. I do care if he has hard core BMD. Get that shit settled. And the divorced finalized.
This is all my brain has at the moment. I am trying to go through my friends list to see if I missed anything. Also, feel free to comment on anything I may have missed.