What is wrong with me?

[simply_fresh]

Ok, so answer me this. I am happy being single, I have no problem with it. But for some reason when I start dating someone I get all self-conscious and analyze everything little thing I do. For example, I went on a date with this guy this past weekend, we had been talk for a few weeks but never had a chance to meet up. Went great, he seems to

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some thoughts

[anonymous]

it would be a good idea to start dating other people or even to start socializing with other people your age...if you have friends to talk to and do stuff with besides this one special person then it will minimize what you are going through now. of course, if you had sex, and he didn't call back right away like within 24 hours...ie the next morning...really important...then it explains a lot of what you are going through and it makes it a lot worse in my opinion. not a good thing for a man to blow someone off after she just had sex with him

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[anonymous]

oh he did call later that night finally...he should have called during the day at work...he "claimed" he said he was going to call me that night...but i think that is just an excuse...he should have called at work---its not like he hadn't called at work before.

but it caused a major rift in the relationship...causing me to not trust him because he didn't call me the next day at work. this relationship cont'd for another year...but it never overcame that rift...i only realize this now in writing it...and this was about 10-15 years ago. i was right not to trust him, as we did not marry...he is a romance addict. and the relationship was superficial. it took him a year to figure out that we were not going to have sex. i think that is the reason he made valentine's day such a big deal. he was hoping to get some...he totally underestimated me.

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[anonymous]

and overestimated himself

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[simply_fresh]

Ok, not sure who this is....but to answer your question we did not have sex. But I do think you are right, I need to continue to remind myself that I have my own life and not get so wrapped-up and all-consumed in this new thing; I mean it is what it is, yeah? If it is going to happen then it is...I also think I tend to want everything NOW and that makes me want to rush everything, I need to learn to slow things down in my life....

[deco_lounge]

Hi Honey.

Shit like this happens when you reeeeeeeally care about someone. Maybe it was someone from a LONG time ago, maybe more recent. Either way, I think it happens when you feel so strongly about someone that the inherently fragile part in you (and in all of us) gets nervous and self-conscious. We don't have any control over it...it just happens...because we're human and we like being happy, and we really don't like being un-happy after being really happy. Does that make any sense at all? Bottom line: this probably doesn't have as much to do with this new guy as you think. If you're anything like me, it probably has everything to do with what you've learned along the way.

Love you!

[simply_fresh]

Yeah, you are totally right honey, it is definitely what I have learned along the way. I think it was just a major GMS day yesterday, I don't know what the hell was wrong! Hope you and Shane had a great V-Day!! Thanks again sister, you rock my world!