Buried

[singleentendre]

We buried Dad this morning. Well, committed him to a mausoleum, anyway. It's been a grueling almost-week, but I want to thank everyone for the kind comments. I don't have the energy to respond to them individually, but I read them all and appreciate them very much

Comments

[scottem]

Barry, I'm so sorry to hear about this. I didn't see the earlier post, but my heart goes out to you now. You seem to be dealing with this a lot better than most people could, myself included.

[singleentendre]

I've surprised myself with how well I've dealt with it so far. In the past I doubted I would ever be this functional while grieving, so I guess I'm a much stronger person than I realized.

But I also know that the full impact hasn't hit me yet. I've cried a lot, and rationally I know he's gone, but I haven't been impacted emotionally by his long-term absence yet. One day I'll get good news, and I'll forget and start to call or email him, and he won't be there, and I'll melt on the spot.

[boilingbabies]

This is so sad, and so sudden. I'm glad you seem to be coping, and that the funeral went well. Hang in there.

[singleentendre]

The funeral could've gone better (for reasons other than the whole death thing), but the graveside committal ceremony this morning was perfect. Solemn, dignified, and exactly what I felt Dad deserved.

[stopityoumonkey]

I actually kind of enjoyed my dad's wake, strange as that sounds. It was nice to see everyone who came and it felt good that they cared enough to come

[singleentendre]

Thanks for the tips! Funny you should mention taking Fridays off. I was thinking of doing 10-hour, 4-day weeks so I could fly back to Ohio once we get to the sort-through-stuff stage. I'm sure my employer would support that, and telecommuting might not be out of the realm of possibility, too.

I've taken this entire week off work, and I think I'm going to take the next week as well. I don't have unlimited vacation days, so I'm going to try to get as much done next week as possible. Dad actually left all his financial documents in an enormous binder and told my sister where to find it in the event of his death, so that's been very helpful so far.

[rminct]

Dealing with all the financial and other details is a burden, but it also helps to keep the mind busy at a time when that's probably a good thing. Yeah, there will be those times down the road when a particular event reminds you of what you've lost. I don't have any advice but time does soften the pain.
My thoughts are with you.

[singleentendre]

Yeah, I can see that it's going to be a long recovery. I've gotten used to being sad, so at least it can only get better from here ;)

[xtian04]

sending you my condolences...

[singleentendre]

I'm doing okay. Every day is a little better :)