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[aries_black]

I've tried the, no more diaper and put panties on my lil one. She took to it fine for....a handful of days then it backfired. She'll pt her panties on in the morning just fine, the day will progress just fine....I'll ask her if she has to go to the bathroom to pee or poop, she'll respond with "No". Then 5...maybe 10 minutes later I hear her taking

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[lordhellebore]

I think you're under far too much pressure from your mother, and she has far too high expectations concerning both you and your daughter. Do you know why she is like this?

The potty training...I know it can be very frustrating. It wasn't easy with my daughter either, but if there is one thing I learnt from it then that they'll do it when they're ready, and not when others think they have to.

And the writing - really, at 3, children usually don't write yet. Sure, there are the exceptions, but normal kids don't need to learn writing at three at all. Most kids I know start getting interested in that around five, and many dont even have the fine motor skills to write proper letters at three.

[koikana]

Children generally pick one area to excel in at a time. for my daughter at 3 it wasn't potty training (barely broke her by pre-k) she didn't want to read, it was coloring. Her fine motor skills were muchbetter than others her age. Now she's 7, an excellent reader, has trouble writing, and can not seem to comprehend money math.

[phoenixscribe]

1. Mom seriously needs to back off. Every child develops at different speeds; my oldest didn't walk until after he turned 1, but my youngest was picking up his walker while he was in it and nearly running at about 7-8 months.

2. At 3, only about 2/3 of girls are potty-trained, and maybe 1/2 of boys.

3. At 3, the best you should reasonably expect in regards to writing is rough scribbles. The Crayola markers / crayons that are balls are designed for this age group.

4. If you're really concerned about teaching her how to write (and possibly taking some of the pressure off in general), you really might want to consider getting her into Head Start. It's a program designed for 3 - 5 year olds, aimed at getting them ready for kindergarten. Both of my boys were in it, and it helped significantly.

5. Check into "Potty Boot Camp." The theories work, and you only need a weekend to get it started. One thing I found to help was not to ask if they needed to go, but to just take them to the potty and have them try.

[liannas_mom]

A fun activity that introduces them to the concept of writing without any of the stress is take a square pan with raised edges, fill it with either sand, sugar, or shaving cream and have them 'trace' letters in the substance. I started that with my extremely receptive to language, writing and letters child when she was about 2. And remember, each child develops at different rates in different areas. My daughter is now 4, she has amazing fine motor skills and can write real well. Yet she has no interest in numbers what-so-ever and so far has no intentions of learning them. Don't let you being a lefty and her being a righty get in your way. I have a left handed child and me being right handed has never made a difference.
Also remember that learning at that age comes from play. The last thing you want to do is sit them down and try to force anything on them. Watch her, see what interests her and incorporate what you want her to learn in said activities.
Don't let others pressure you, do what you feel is right.

[tyrtyl]

my daughter is left handed, and I am right handed. It does not make a difference. You can teach her by sitting opposite of her, or by putting your hand over hers, getting her to trace what you've written. The most important thing is to not push her or else she will begin to dislike it.