kids and divorce

[emote1975]

So how do you handle the resentment from your child / children with leaving their mother

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[goldoyster]

This book has been very helpful: http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/rp-pr/fl-lf/famil/book-livre/ It's written for children to read but you can look through it with them. There's a nice PDF version on that page.

They're blaming you cause they feel upset, need someone to blame, and feel safe enough to blame you. They're probably afraid if they lash out at their mom they'll see her even less. Just keep loving them and offering them that safe space to lash out. Soon enough they will see the situation for what it is.

I wish you strength and hugs.

[goldoyster]

Oh yes, therapy doesn't hurt. I'm a big fan of therapy. There are groups around here that offer counselling to kids going through divorce, maybe there's a group like that in your area too. They even have get togethers for all the children and single parents.

[emote1975]

We actually see (all four of us) a family therapist every other week & then he has his own therapist he sees the opposite weeks. They have him a workbook that he seems to like but he doesn't want to share that with me. So I don't push.