It can be good in the right audience, specifically someone else who doesn't mind being interrupted and doesn't mind interrupting (do you take it as well you dish it out? I seem to remember you do) - a nonstop Jenga tower of flashing thoughts.
Generally I take it well, especially when I am building a thought-tower with someone. Generally it is great fun when I am paired with someone who thinks as fast as I do and talks as quickly and volubly as I do, because generally we work ourselves into a veritable verbal frenzy. (Indeed, you do remember correctly.)
"RIGHT, and like the dolphins--" "WITH THE SEX! And the bonobos--" "BUT--" "WELL--" "OF COURSE ahahahaha."
Which has the benefit of looking completely ridiculous to anyone horning in.
Haha, I have a colleague-friend who I do this with. I love being with her because I know I never, ever have to worry about talking too much or talking too fast. (She is also Greek-Lebanese and stands fractionally-closer-than-I'm-Anglo-comfortable-with, but I tolerate-almost-like it because it's her.) Sometimes we get so fast that I wonder whether people walking past can hear anything other than a sort of medium-pitched buzzing sound.
I find this really difficult too. More when I am in a conversation with people I don't know so well. When I was in Dublin I was talking to someone and did it repeatedly, spoke over them, then realised I was doing it and stopped, but only for a few seconds when I thought they'd finished but they hadn't. FOUR TIMES IN A ROW. And each time I was mortified and thought "but just wait for the right time, don't just curl up and hide" and every time it was wrong. They were very nice about it, sort of made me feel worse.
OH GOD. That is, in fact, always happening to me, especially with people who
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while they're thinking. Whereas I am busy BLURT BLURT BLURT BLURT BLURTing into the spaces, because I have thoughts! I will share them! All of them! In a row!
Ack argh ack. At least I'm not the only one, though, which I appreciate.
I often don't even realize I've done it, until someone tells me later, and then I have Awkward Shame! It's awful. It comes a little bit from being from a loud and opinionated family (small, but feisty!) and a little bit from ye olde social anxiety. Either way, I have to Cut That Shit Out.
But laughing! That is always my goal. Life is more humorous than we give it credit for, I think.
I think it comes from growing up in a crowded household
Yes! There are five of us in my family and usually around the dinner table we have three different conversations going on. That'll be me and my mum talking across the table, my brothers talking about something else, and then one of us will be be having a simultaneous conversation about something completely unrelated with my dad.
Then I went to my girlfriend's family, and I find dinners TERRIFYING there because only one person talks at once. So if I start telling a Humorous Anecdote, everyone stops and listens to me, and I think, *gulp* this had better be good. In my family, if you tell a Humorous Anecdote and it falls flat, you get interrupted before you've even finished the punchline and everyone's forgotten 0.2 seconds later. It's so much less intimidating!
you-- talk too much? you interrupt? dude! I don't think this is the case AT ALL but then I totally am easily lead down verbal tangents completely unrelated to anything I was saying before, so much so that people will wait for me to finish a thought that I stopped articulating for three seconds and I'll be all WHAT? I was finished! yes, right in the middle of that phrase because I FORGOT THE RELEVANCE OF WHAT IT WAS I WAS SAYING AS I WAS SAYING IT.
the incredibly pathetic part of the trailing off i do is that, as you've seen, i also do it while typing. which is, really, the kind of thing you're supposed to be able to be coherent while doing.
which, ahaha. what was I saying? yeah, i'm not even lying, I can't remember what it was I was gonna comment with, now.
I liked your talking! which, on the heels of this post I wasn't sure I should say, but-- one of the things that was really cool about chillin' with you is that it didn't really feel like there was an awkward situation, where we weren't talking ALL the time, but if there was like, a point at which we weren't talking it was because we were doing something else, not just kind of looking around and not having anything to say? IDEK. clearly the moral is we are MFEO in terms of habitual conversationalists.
why did I just remind myself of crazy emily dickenson, also? maybe I should stop smoking of the crack? maybe I should stop talking right the fuck now, as well. UM.
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"RIGHT, and like the dolphins--"
"WITH THE SEX! And the bonobos--"
"BUT--"
"WELL--"
"OF COURSE ahahahaha."
Which has the benefit of looking completely ridiculous to anyone horning in.
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while they're thinking. Whereas I am busy BLURT BLURT BLURT BLURT BLURTing into the spaces, because I have thoughts! I will share them! All of them! In a row!
Ack argh ack. At least I'm not the only one, though, which I appreciate.
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But laughing! That is always my goal. Life is more humorous than we give it credit for, I think.
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Yes! There are five of us in my family and usually around the dinner table we have three different conversations going on. That'll be me and my mum talking across the table, my brothers talking about something else, and then one of us will be be having a simultaneous conversation about something completely unrelated with my dad.
Then I went to my girlfriend's family, and I find dinners TERRIFYING there because only one person talks at once. So if I start telling a Humorous Anecdote, everyone stops and listens to me, and I think, *gulp* this had better be good. In my family, if you tell a Humorous Anecdote and it falls flat, you get interrupted before you've even finished the punchline and everyone's forgotten 0.2 seconds later. It's so much less intimidating!
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the incredibly pathetic part of the trailing off i do is that, as you've seen, i also do it while typing. which is, really, the kind of thing you're supposed to be able to be coherent while doing.
which, ahaha. what was I saying? yeah, i'm not even lying, I can't remember what it was I was gonna comment with, now.
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N.B. I LOVE YOU. ♥
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why did I just remind myself of crazy emily dickenson, also? maybe I should stop smoking of the crack? maybe I should stop talking right the fuck now, as well. UM.
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