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[siren_desidia]

"People are in two states in a relationship, the first is what I call positive sentiment override, where positive emotion overrides irritability. It's like a buffer. Their spouse will do something bad and they'll say, 'Oh, he's just in a crummy mood.' The second is negative sentiment override, where even a relatively neutral thing that a partner

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[twilight_rodent]

When a person makes a judgment, they look for only the reasons that will support that claim to prove them right. Anything else does not seem to have any weight or merit if it goes against there feelings on the matter.
This is clear when someone like someone and the old saying, love is blind.

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[siren_desidia]

my entire relationship of the past 5 years has existed because i am always positive to whatever ridiculous extent it took to counter the other person's negative, no matter how bad it got. Without me as a buffer, as a punching bag, things fall apart, because it then becomes neg/neg state.

[twilight_rodent]

In relationships things are much more complicated. I have seen/known people that try to get out of them, by looking for something the other is doing wrong. Not saying this is good or even your case. (they do not want to be the bad guy by causing the break up