People, sadly, are just human. And humans tend to change. They also tend to be ragingly stupid for absurdly long periods sometimes. I'm so sorry that your friend is having that stupid time. I'm sorry for his family, and for his friends. He is going to truly regret it very soon, if he doesn't already. In my experience, the worse someones behaviour is, the MORE they blame it on others and get mad at said others for their own decisions. Displacement is above and beyond denial in my book. It's reprehensible and inexcusable, but it happens....a LOT! Keep being a good friend to his wife. She really needs you guys right now. Even if she keeps saying no, no, no, keep trying. Her pride and self confidence are seriously injured, and she might not be able to say "yes please, I really need help".
Wow, that all sounds so devastating. I think it's really kind of you and your wife to offer support to his wife, I am sure she appreciates it. I hope this friend calls you, or at least communicates somehow with you.
Re: Wow, someone is kind of a bitchsirguidoDecember 4 2006, 02:32:33 UTC
I never once spoke behind your back about a thing. Whether or not you were near the computer at any point and time has absolutely no bearing whatsoever on what we spoke of. I still hold true to the fact that you deserve to have your ass kicked for doing what you did. Yes, I spoke to your wife, yes she gave me a lot of information, yes I believe most of it, no I do not take it all as gospel. I do, however, know you and can believe that most of it is probably true. I have made the attempt to get your side of the story, but as you so aptly pointed out, I am only a "supposed friend." I have never once played to you as anything different than who I am, if you don't like it... tough. Since we're all in a pissy ranting mood perhaps now would be a good time to tell you how sad I think it is that you're now hiding behind this freaking fur identity that you've all of a sudden created for yourself. Have fun and try not to burn those wings... again.
Re: Wow, someone is kind of a bitchsirguidoDecember 4 2006, 03:24:55 UTC
Did I use your name? No I don't believe I ever once used your name. Now go on and wax dramatic about how I apparently stabbed you in the back, without of course going into detail about how this fallacy actually occurred. Are you so unoriginal that you can't make up a believable story for your bare faced lie? Next, why don't we attack my self-esteem eh? That's the epitome of class right there.
Yes, I know exactly where your staying even if he hadn't told me in some apparent plot to goad me into saying something that I wouldn't ever have said to your face. If either of you think for a minute that I would ever trust him after some of the shit he's done to me you are sadly mistaken. Anything that ever gets said to him is always filtered, scanned, and double checked to insure it never gets tortured and twisted into some tainted thing whispered into your ear.
As for finding you to kick your ass, unlike you I have a "family" that I intend to spend time with so I find myself without the time to waste on the inconsequential. Good
I want to apologize for flying off the handle with my posts, i am upset at your journal and do feel that it is inappropriate but i handled it incorrectly. Most of all i am upset that few seem to understand what led to this but all seem to think that they know what I'm feeling. I am not ashamed, i am upset about and for the kids. I am regretful that i let it go this far. Fear, regret and desire, right Guido? Fear for my children, regret that it will have an effect on them and regret for what it seems to be doing to some of my friendships, and desire? I desire little. So I'm only 2/3rds a sinner. that's ok, sometimes i feel like Emma-o's plaything. Enough with the L5R references, although singed, i do remain, Redwing.
I don't think that me posting it in my journal was at all inappropriate. I didn't say your name, and no one I know even knows about your situation. I haven't said a word to anyone about it, save my own wife. As for knowing what you're feeling, I would have no idea what you're feeling because you never talk to me anymore. I have no idea what led to this, and I have no idea what caused it in the end. Again, because you never talk to me. All I can say is what I think you should be feeling based on the information I have, and that's all I've done. I'm glad to hear that you're not completely untouched by this tragedy, and yes to know that two of my best friends in this life have(for whatever reason) fallen out of love is definitely a tragedy in my eyes, because it shows that you still have a heart and it hasn't gone completely to ice. You have my number, and you know when I'm home, you can call me whenever you wish to. As it stands though, I will make no further mention of this, nor will I make any effort to do anything about it
( ... )
Comments 7
People, sadly, are just human. And humans tend to change. They also tend to be ragingly stupid for absurdly long periods sometimes. I'm so sorry that your friend is having that stupid time. I'm sorry for his family, and for his friends. He is going to truly regret it very soon, if he doesn't already. In my experience, the worse someones behaviour is, the MORE they blame it on others and get mad at said others for their own decisions. Displacement is above and beyond denial in my book. It's reprehensible and inexcusable, but it happens....a LOT! Keep being a good friend to his wife. She really needs you guys right now. Even if she keeps saying no, no, no, keep trying. Her pride and self confidence are seriously injured, and she might not be able to say "yes please, I really need help".
You're a good guy, SG.
Reply
*hugs*
Reply
(The comment has been removed)
Reply
(The comment has been removed)
Yes, I know exactly where your staying even if he hadn't told me in some apparent plot to goad me into saying something that I wouldn't ever have said to your face. If either of you think for a minute that I would ever trust him after some of the shit he's done to me you are sadly mistaken. Anything that ever gets said to him is always filtered, scanned, and double checked to insure it never gets tortured and twisted into some tainted thing whispered into your ear.
As for finding you to kick your ass, unlike you I have a "family" that I intend to spend time with so I find myself without the time to waste on the inconsequential. Good
Reply
Reply
Reply
Reply
Leave a comment