Weird

[sirlief]

So it has been the little things that have struck me the most about getting divorce. The things that shouldn't matter but do. I have done my share of crying and been angry beyond belief, but those things seem expected to me... probably needed

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[must_obey_me]

As your BGFF, I know sometimes its hard for me to separate what you say and that I might infer about myself. I am sure Steve has thought very similarly of me. Hell I would say a lot of those same things about myself.

And actually its a very good lesson for me. When I start to think "Oh God I am this or that." and even considering changing them because of something you said. I have stop and think this is my life and only I can judge what I think of it.

So you are welcome to come to my messy house. And you are welcome to go with me on my shopping sprees. And you are welcome to think whatever you like. I, might, who am I kidding I most certainly will tell you to stuff it if you say something I don't like but I think we will be ok. =]

I've enjoyed seeing you happier as of late. Its just a process. One day at a time.

[corinthia]

Really? They are getting offended about it? I swear, the more I read about how other women react to things, the more I think I must have missed Womanhood 101 back in college. I never once took a single thing you said about Melanie to be relevant to me.

[sirlief]

Some get offended, some see their own faults. Some get offended because they are seeing their own faults. My sister in law has been offended at least twice, because she is seeing what I say as a judgment on how she is living her life. She and my brother treat money in a similar fashion as Melanie does, but it works for them (this from my outside perspective).

I don't mean to offend. I am just trying to share.

[calidor]

First off it's your blog so bitch if you want to.

The happiness thing I'm really happy to hear about. At first i was like wow he's just in denial, but once you talked about how you haven't all that happy since it made me realize you weren't in denial, you're just re-discovering your passions. Speaking of which what do you want to do with your life now? I'm not really asking this, because I need an answer, but more as a you should answer that for yourself...........if you haven't already.

[sirlief]

Nope, I am not in denial. I have been more happy since new years than I was all last year combined. Real honest to dog happiness (don't believe in god, but I do believe in dogs).

As for the things that I want to do with my life, I have thought about them. I still want to do the same things that I have always wanted: raise a family, run or own a big business, be happy, have great friends and travel (eat good food as well). The context has changed a little now that I don't have a wife, but the same major points are in there. There are a lot more things that I want to do but those are the major ones and inside of each there are sub-goals.

[shazzah]

Remember something, this is your blog and your area to vent. I would not even remotely consider myself to Mel in any shape or fashion. And that is regardless of our likenesses or other. That being said, no one reading your lj should feel they are like Mel either. For someone to actually be offended by anything you have to say in this time would and should offend you the writer. We should all be friends here and be somewhat understanding of people's personal frustrations while going through this ordeal. It's not fun and it's quite painful. Say your peace. Sometimes writing it outloud is the only way to get it off your mind and make sense of it. And never apologize for being you.

[sirlief]

Thanks

[thalen]

You know, when I broke up and finally moved out from Wisper, I was lucky enough to have friends that took my side of things...It made the bitch sessions much more enjoyable. You're gonna have feelings that you're going to HAVE to get out: Anger, amazement, joy, relief..You name it, it's possible you'll feel it. This is a good place to get things out, if it's locked down like fort knox. Email is ok, but conversations are better. Find people you can talk to, if you need to you can call me. I've been there. That helps.

[sirlief]

I have many friends whom I talk to about this. The one that has helped the most is Kristi, username = must_obey_me . She has a very similar story to mine except in her story she plays the role of Melanie. The similarities are staggering, as far as the whole storyline goes, but the details change. The important thing is that she reacted differently to her husband finding out. Instead of continuing to lie and cheat, Kristi actually tried to save her marriage and cut off contact with her lover... for a while at least. From what I can see she made an honest effort and that is something I cannot say for Mel

[thalen]

Glad to hear you've got a good support system, That really helps.

Um.hehe, no, I won't be at SKBC. I don't really play amtgard anymore. Kat and I WILL be at Spring War though. Hopefully we'll see you there.

[sirlief]

I won't be there. Maybe some other time