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[1121am]

does it actually hurt the first time you have sex?
do you really bleed?

meh. just wondering. i read it somewhere& it makes me want to die before i ever have sex. haha.

Comments

[upthebum]

Yes it does hurt, usually for the first few times, and some cases there is a bit of bleeding from the hymen breaking. There isn't much you can do about this, other than to lube up and RELAX! Most girls get really tense and then the muscles tighten up down there, which naturally makes it really painful.

[endlesscharade]

The bleeding part is different for every girl. I didn't because I danced for...roughly 11 years and was always an active kid, so chances are my hymen was like, "LOLZ PEACE" the first (completely non-sexual) chance it got

[verymad_affair]

I heard somewhere that the urge to pee after sex is normal and it's like you body's way of getting rid of the bacteria. Not any std's or anything, but other stuff. I clearly wasn;t paying attention.

[callmezazoo]

yeah you're supposed to pee after you have sex, within about half an hour afterward. it gets rid of bacteria and prevents urinary tract infections, which are NO fun.

[sparklingsoull]

Yeah I heard that too.

[disheveledhair]

Every girl is different though. Some people don't notice much, some people notice a lot. The bleeding isn't really anything, it's not like a period, more like a flesh wound, and it might sting a little because of that, but it's not horrible. You might be sore afterwards, the day after if you clench or when you sit down you might notice it, but it's not excruciating. You get used to it, it only lasts the first few times and then it's not so bad. It's not worth dying over!! Just relax and don't be scared, that'll make it hurt more than anything.

[sparklingsoull]

I bet the more you think about it the more it would hurt. ^^

[callmezazoo]

for me it didn't really hurt that bad the first time, and my hymen didn't break until i tried to have sex with someone else a few months later, lol. basically it's just kind of a soreness which feels weird because you're not usually sore down there! my only advice is, make sure you do it with someone you are very comfortable with and that care about on some level. i'm not saying you have to be in love, but you don't want to look back on your first time and think, "i can't believe i did it with that moron!" also, if you're comfortable with him, any bleeding or pain won't be as big a deal as it might be with someone else. if anything weird happens, laugh it off -- you're supposed to be having fun, after all!

[callmezazoo]

oh and, to echo what someone said up there, lube is your friend. makes things a lot... smoother, lol.