Holiday Wishes
I made a list of wishes and posted it
Here are the responses I got to my wish #3: Tell me the secret of keeping friends in your life and how to overcome shyness. .
* I'm pretty shy too but I've found that ignoring the mean people and paying attention to the nice people helps. And try talking to other shy people helps a lot. ( wisdom courtesy of bwc_baby
* The only secret to keeping friends in your life is to make sure you make the effort to keep in contact with them, one way or the other.
The way I overcame my shyness was by making a conscious effort every day to walk and sit upright with my head held high, and to make an effort to appear graceful, elegant, and confidant. From there, I observed very closely the way that "normal", "non-shy" people interacted with each other and tried to imitate them. Eventually, it became second-nature to me, and while I am still quite shy around people I have just met, I can manage to appear to fit in.
You can accomplish anything you put your mind to. You just have to work hard for it (wisdom courtesy of yume_no_tenshi
* There is no secret. You just have to do it.
And you have to do it every day.
Remember that your friends want to hear from you. That you have to pick up the phone or the pen and call them. That they really want to hear from you, and need to.
To find friends, take a night class at a community college, join a local club, find a group of people with similar interests. (wisdom courtesy of shyvus
*The secret to overcoming shyness, at least in my case, is just to say, hey, I have something to offer. No matter the situation. I'm a singer...my voice is what I offer and someone will be blessed for it. I'm a "therapist"...someone needs help and I'm there to help them...whatever your gift is, that's what you have to offer. And to keep friends...realize that every relationship takes work on both accounts...meaning you must both work to make it work. And remember, some people are meant be in our lives forever, and others for only a season. Maybe you just haven't found your forevers yet...or maybe you have and haven't realized it yet... (wisdom courtesy of weezerscaddy)
* And number three..how to keep friends? Well. I guess its to choose loyal, responsbile friends to be your friends in the first place. Try your best to keep in touch, and put lots of effort into friendship relationships. (wisdom courtesy of rainofhope)
Progress Report
Okay. I'll admit it hasn't been long enough to see an over all trend on this wish. I left work on the afternoon of November 17th, 2005 (as almost the entire world knows) and I haven't seen most of my co-workers since then and I haven't had much contact with my friends from work. I spend a lot of time alone, doing my physio assigned exercises or at appointments for physiotherapy, acupuncture, psychiatrist, psychologist or jenny craig (up 2lbs today) and I have felt very isolated.
So, I had my husband secure a tiny seasonal gift from the Source@Circuit City for my co-workers. Look at how cute they are:
and then I phoned the friend that I missed the most. We had a really good long talk and she was sorry that she hadn't called me more since I've been gone. We talked about how the time had gone by so quickly and she told me some of the serious strife that she has been through in the past year. And how she had missed me at work.
So, I want to thank you all for your advice. I still have to drop the little trees off but I might be able to do it tomorrow. Since my accident happened, I completely avoid that area of Edmonton when traveling to and fro but Keith will try to get me there (so it also depends on his workload
Here are the responses I got to my wish #3: Tell me the secret of keeping friends in your life and how to overcome shyness. .
* I'm pretty shy too but I've found that ignoring the mean people and paying attention to the nice people helps. And try talking to other shy people helps a lot. ( wisdom courtesy of bwc_baby
* The only secret to keeping friends in your life is to make sure you make the effort to keep in contact with them, one way or the other.
The way I overcame my shyness was by making a conscious effort every day to walk and sit upright with my head held high, and to make an effort to appear graceful, elegant, and confidant. From there, I observed very closely the way that "normal", "non-shy" people interacted with each other and tried to imitate them. Eventually, it became second-nature to me, and while I am still quite shy around people I have just met, I can manage to appear to fit in.
You can accomplish anything you put your mind to. You just have to work hard for it (wisdom courtesy of yume_no_tenshi
* There is no secret. You just have to do it.
And you have to do it every day.
Remember that your friends want to hear from you. That you have to pick up the phone or the pen and call them. That they really want to hear from you, and need to.
To find friends, take a night class at a community college, join a local club, find a group of people with similar interests. (wisdom courtesy of shyvus
*The secret to overcoming shyness, at least in my case, is just to say, hey, I have something to offer. No matter the situation. I'm a singer...my voice is what I offer and someone will be blessed for it. I'm a "therapist"...someone needs help and I'm there to help them...whatever your gift is, that's what you have to offer. And to keep friends...realize that every relationship takes work on both accounts...meaning you must both work to make it work. And remember, some people are meant be in our lives forever, and others for only a season. Maybe you just haven't found your forevers yet...or maybe you have and haven't realized it yet... (wisdom courtesy of weezerscaddy)
* And number three..how to keep friends? Well. I guess its to choose loyal, responsbile friends to be your friends in the first place. Try your best to keep in touch, and put lots of effort into friendship relationships. (wisdom courtesy of rainofhope)
Progress Report
Okay. I'll admit it hasn't been long enough to see an over all trend on this wish. I left work on the afternoon of November 17th, 2005 (as almost the entire world knows) and I haven't seen most of my co-workers since then and I haven't had much contact with my friends from work. I spend a lot of time alone, doing my physio assigned exercises or at appointments for physiotherapy, acupuncture, psychiatrist, psychologist or jenny craig (up 2lbs today) and I have felt very isolated.
So, I had my husband secure a tiny seasonal gift from the Source@Circuit City for my co-workers. Look at how cute they are:
and then I phoned the friend that I missed the most. We had a really good long talk and she was sorry that she hadn't called me more since I've been gone. We talked about how the time had gone by so quickly and she told me some of the serious strife that she has been through in the past year. And how she had missed me at work.
So, I want to thank you all for your advice. I still have to drop the little trees off but I might be able to do it tomorrow. Since my accident happened, I completely avoid that area of Edmonton when traveling to and fro but Keith will try to get me there (so it also depends on his workload