Comments | skajoe: My Dilemma

skajoe

My Dilemma

Feb 15, 2005 11:07

Any suggestions on how to handle this situation would be greatly appreciated. An old friend of mine, Claire, has become put on strings by a horrible excuse for a boyfriend. Claire and I use to hang out every once in a while almost 3 years ago. As you know many people are horrible at calling people to keep in touch and I sadly was no exception back ( Read more... )

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skajoe February 15 2005, 19:49:26 UTC

Yeah but the problem is HOW to get her out of that situation and HOW to tell her she deserves better when she is not allowed to talk to me.

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skajoe February 15 2005, 21:12:43 UTC

Shes only goes places with him. I dont think she even has any outside friends anymore.

jfcdreamgirl February 15 2005, 20:01:56 UTC

my friend just got out of a relationship similar to that. he was controlled and fianlly realized that he was being held back form things he loved doing. he just broke it off with her. help her get out and make her realize whats happening

iheartskanking February 15 2005, 20:02:16 UTC

you should just kill the guy. I mean, its really pretty easy, and a lot less complicated than organizing all these women to call her and bring her to this place at that time and blah blah.

no, dont really kill him.

just tell her she could do better, ask her if she's happy, and when she says no, sweep her off her feet. Go to her house or something

mstakenforstars February 15 2005, 21:00:23 UTC

Well obviously, anyone in a relationship should never not be denied anything. But why doesn't she just leave him? I think it's a good idea about getting a group together. She should know she has support. It really sounds like this could be an abusive guy, one of the signs is not letting her talk to anyone and screening her calls, he's being very posessive. If worst comes to worst and this is the case, she should go to the police or a womens shelter or something.

Goodluck.

__domestica__ February 15 2005, 21:53:27 UTC

Well, I'm glad that you're doing this for her, Joe. If he's being that controlling and potentially abusive, it's obvious that she needs to get out of the relationship right now, the thing is, is that people that havent been in that type of relationship don't realize just how hard it is. Now, I myself haven't been in that type of relationship, but my mother has. She was with a man who beat her and controlled her and abused her in any way he could and she barely escaped with her life with the help of my dad. He left her with anxiety attacks, physical scars on her face and a very very messed up image of love and happiness, she's ALWAYS worried that she's going to do something wrong and her own family wont love her anymore. She's still recovering mentally from somethign that happened in the late 70's. The images of what he did to her still plague her memory every day. The reason it's so hard to get out of the relationship, she told me, is because the person who's the abuser manipulates the other person into thinking she's worthless or ( ... )