Thank you

[skoolgrl1979]

I made a post earlier, worried about being a bad mommy. I got nothing but nice things said to me from you guys and I totally appriciate it. Thank you guys! I am making a list (yeah, it sounds shrinkish but maybe it'll work) of stuff I don't want to tolerate from Anthony. I'm also gonna TRY to do these things

Comments

[madush69]

Nothing is wrong with you. You love your son, and don't want him to make an ass out of himself. That's all we parents ever really want.

[nate101000]

When in public take him to the bathroom and spank him. Even if you have to loose your place in line. Immediately take him to the bathroom and spank him, then go get back in line. With consistency you should only have to threaten to take him at some point.

I would also suggest that you make a complete list of rules. Read them to him when he misbehaves, and read them to him when you post new ones.

[uterdic]

This isn't really my topic because I have no kids (besides my dog, but that's not quite the same thing), but I thought I'd mention a theory that I believe works, and could possibly work so long as he understands what is going on.

The Do Onto Others Rule:
Do to him what he does to you (not biting), then when he expresses discontentment towards the treatment, you can then explain, "It's no fun when it happens TO you, is it?" I'm not sure he's old enough to understand that philosophy, but I know kids that age understand a lot more than we give them credit for.

Also, the about the new spanking rules: I'm not appaled at the idea of spanking, but the more you do it, the better he can deal with it. It sort of gets diluted as time goes on. It's the fear of punishment, or in this case spanking, that should keep them better behaved. this doesn't mean he'll live in fear, but if he really doesn't like being spanked, then he won't get out of line as much.

Just my 2 cents.

[skoolgrl1979]

Yeah. I agree on the spanking thing. I mainly don't like it b/c it's hypocritical and an abuse of power really. I mean I agree on the part where the kid'll get numb to it. I mean, kids'll get numb to yelling and "stop-it" too. I mean, he seems to udnerstand a lot "Help mommy put your toys in the basket", "Tell Aunt May sorry," "Give this to Grandp"... I imagine he understand what I say other times and simply won't do it. Well, SOME stuff works for the time being but... I don't know. I mean, I don't WANT to spank but I don't want him to become numb to yelling either. What's most frustrating is when I give him a consequece ("you'll have to go inside if you dump the dog's water") adn then he makes my life miserable b/c of it by screaming, biting himself and banging his head on stuff. Maybe that's just normal. I try to be a good mommy.