Meme from ashmedai
Comment to this post and I'll give you 5 topics that remind me of you. Then, post those subjects in your own journal and elaborate on them.
Okay, the rule. Singular. Since a lot of you have done this one already, I'll give you five topics if you ask for them, otherwise not. :)
Alex gave me 6 topics. :)
1. BDSM Philosophy: I have never been in what I consider to be the mainsteam BDSM lifestyle. I've never gone to a leather club or a public dungeon. Other than online, I don't have friends who truly understand it. I have never signed a contract with a master, never negotiated terms.
My one philosophy is that BDSM is all about trust. I don't see how people can hook up with someone they barely know online and go off to meet them for a weekend of play. No matter how casual you want BDSM to me, I think its very dangerous to put yourself into the hands of the unknown. (Now in fantasy, it sounds very sexy ~nodnod~)
I think anything can be sexy with the right person so you should always have an open mind.
I don't use safe words because when I am in the zone, there isn't a limit. So, I have to rely on my master to know when to say when.
2. TPE- This means Total Power Exchange and has to do with the power that a submissive or slave relinquishes to their dominant partner. I have been in relationships where this exchange has been forced and can gladly say that is no longer the case. I don't know if I was strong enough at the time to make any struggle against the loss of my power but it was taken without consent none the less.
Speaking from a submissive point of view, I can tell you that (at least for me) laying my power before the men in my life is as much a religious experience as I have ever felt. Its my offering to them. I do it gladly and without regret. I have seen all levels of submissiveness but I have to say mine is a total exchange. It comes from trust and love. This gift is not just something for playtime or sexual activities, it is my lifestyle as much as being gay. I have some boundaries because of past experiences. Some acts can cause total panic but if these acts were expected of me by Ethan or Mark, I would gladly perform regardless and suppress my feelings. That is total exchange. They know this without taking the steps beyond my boundaries and protect me from that which would affect me so deeply.
Its surprising to many that this offering makes me feel safe and secure. The exceptional men that are in my life treasure my gift to them.
3. On-line vs. Real-life Relationships: Hmm...well, first off, I think everyone should have one of each. Good ones, that is.
I think in many ways, there is a deeper communication bond between Mark and me. There has to be since its the only way we can relate to each other, through our words. Things I might expect Eth to see in my expression or mood, I have to put into words for Mark. We talk about reasons that we feel certain moods, etc. The fact that our intimate actions are also limited to words makes way for explanations of the way we feel about certain things and each other. This, in turn, has helped me with the way I deal with Ethan too. I realize that he doesn't know, like Mark does, the feelings behind my actions so I have become more verbal.
I worship both of my men and couldn't imagine being without either. The relationships are different but compliment each other so well. Mark and Eth know each other and are comfortable with the others role in my life. There is no jealousy between the two and lots of mutual respect. I couldn't ask for two more perfect men. :)
4. World Religions: Religions of the world fascinate me. I enjoy reading their texts although I do not follow the creed of any of them. I am respectful of those who do though. We are all searching for truth. I believe it is an intrinsic need for all humans. I have books on Islam, Buddhism, Hindu, The Book of Mormon, quite a few Bibles and material on Wicca. I love discussing religion with others but refuse to argue since faith is very personal and no one should be able to tell another what they should or should not believe. I accept the fact that some believe certain actions to be sins against their God, and as long as the person believes that God is the one to judge and not themselves, I am open to friendship.
In my opinion, most religion is based on fear in order to control. The greatest fear of humankind remains that of the unknown. To many that includes different races and religions but also includes gays. Unless we open ourselves up to others, we cannot hope to change the fear that is so prevalent in the world.
Anyway, yeah.
5. Mythology: To me, this is just an extension of religion. Mythology is a title given to religions that are considered dead by today's standards. The gods and goddesses of the world's many religions give a face to the unexplainable, humanize the mysteries of the universe. I enjoy Celtic/Welsh, Norse, Greek, Asian, African, Voodoo, Eastern European, American Indian, South American, and Sumerian. Some I know better than others but all of it fascinates me.
6. Writing: Writing is a compulsion and a love for me. I don't really know how good I am but I do love it. I haven't written any personal stuff in a while, mostly doing collaborative work with a group of writers on Insane Journal but for a while my writing was also very cathartic. It helped me to work through a lot of my issues. Role play with Mark still helps me with that. He rocks my socks.
Okay, the rule. Singular. Since a lot of you have done this one already, I'll give you five topics if you ask for them, otherwise not. :)
Alex gave me 6 topics. :)
1. BDSM Philosophy: I have never been in what I consider to be the mainsteam BDSM lifestyle. I've never gone to a leather club or a public dungeon. Other than online, I don't have friends who truly understand it. I have never signed a contract with a master, never negotiated terms.
My one philosophy is that BDSM is all about trust. I don't see how people can hook up with someone they barely know online and go off to meet them for a weekend of play. No matter how casual you want BDSM to me, I think its very dangerous to put yourself into the hands of the unknown. (Now in fantasy, it sounds very sexy ~nodnod~)
I think anything can be sexy with the right person so you should always have an open mind.
I don't use safe words because when I am in the zone, there isn't a limit. So, I have to rely on my master to know when to say when.
2. TPE- This means Total Power Exchange and has to do with the power that a submissive or slave relinquishes to their dominant partner. I have been in relationships where this exchange has been forced and can gladly say that is no longer the case. I don't know if I was strong enough at the time to make any struggle against the loss of my power but it was taken without consent none the less.
Speaking from a submissive point of view, I can tell you that (at least for me) laying my power before the men in my life is as much a religious experience as I have ever felt. Its my offering to them. I do it gladly and without regret. I have seen all levels of submissiveness but I have to say mine is a total exchange. It comes from trust and love. This gift is not just something for playtime or sexual activities, it is my lifestyle as much as being gay. I have some boundaries because of past experiences. Some acts can cause total panic but if these acts were expected of me by Ethan or Mark, I would gladly perform regardless and suppress my feelings. That is total exchange. They know this without taking the steps beyond my boundaries and protect me from that which would affect me so deeply.
Its surprising to many that this offering makes me feel safe and secure. The exceptional men that are in my life treasure my gift to them.
3. On-line vs. Real-life Relationships: Hmm...well, first off, I think everyone should have one of each. Good ones, that is.
I think in many ways, there is a deeper communication bond between Mark and me. There has to be since its the only way we can relate to each other, through our words. Things I might expect Eth to see in my expression or mood, I have to put into words for Mark. We talk about reasons that we feel certain moods, etc. The fact that our intimate actions are also limited to words makes way for explanations of the way we feel about certain things and each other. This, in turn, has helped me with the way I deal with Ethan too. I realize that he doesn't know, like Mark does, the feelings behind my actions so I have become more verbal.
I worship both of my men and couldn't imagine being without either. The relationships are different but compliment each other so well. Mark and Eth know each other and are comfortable with the others role in my life. There is no jealousy between the two and lots of mutual respect. I couldn't ask for two more perfect men. :)
4. World Religions: Religions of the world fascinate me. I enjoy reading their texts although I do not follow the creed of any of them. I am respectful of those who do though. We are all searching for truth. I believe it is an intrinsic need for all humans. I have books on Islam, Buddhism, Hindu, The Book of Mormon, quite a few Bibles and material on Wicca. I love discussing religion with others but refuse to argue since faith is very personal and no one should be able to tell another what they should or should not believe. I accept the fact that some believe certain actions to be sins against their God, and as long as the person believes that God is the one to judge and not themselves, I am open to friendship.
In my opinion, most religion is based on fear in order to control. The greatest fear of humankind remains that of the unknown. To many that includes different races and religions but also includes gays. Unless we open ourselves up to others, we cannot hope to change the fear that is so prevalent in the world.
Anyway, yeah.
5. Mythology: To me, this is just an extension of religion. Mythology is a title given to religions that are considered dead by today's standards. The gods and goddesses of the world's many religions give a face to the unexplainable, humanize the mysteries of the universe. I enjoy Celtic/Welsh, Norse, Greek, Asian, African, Voodoo, Eastern European, American Indian, South American, and Sumerian. Some I know better than others but all of it fascinates me.
6. Writing: Writing is a compulsion and a love for me. I don't really know how good I am but I do love it. I haven't written any personal stuff in a while, mostly doing collaborative work with a group of writers on Insane Journal but for a while my writing was also very cathartic. It helped me to work through a lot of my issues. Role play with Mark still helps me with that. He rocks my socks.