I'm 40 years old and sitting here crying after reading the letters from Brett's step-mom. I thought I had long worked on self-acceptance in therapy
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I'm sure you can put us down for the job! (keeping you company).
seriously, this is not a problem with you in any way, shape, or form. Blood ties do not always a "family" make -- sometimes much stronger family and support structures come out of people who really care and accept, not through some obligation of blood.
I meant to post something in Brett's journal earlier, but didn't have the time. Accept who you all are and the joy you have, and if they won't accept it, move on with out them. (though, perhaps, you may get a lifetime supply of free kindling if they keep sending you books . . .).
I don't have time to write for real here, either, but I had to say something . . .
Thanks, Doug. Even though my adult-consciousness knows all you say is true, the kid in me who was taught I was an "abomination" by my church still likes reassurance from others. :) I appreciate you taking the time to do more than read my entry. I'll share your kindness with Brett. Hope your beautiful girlfriend cherishes the great guy she has.
i second doug. that woman is nothing but an evil stepmom. picture her in any one of your favorite grimm fairy tales every time she says or does something asinine. you know how all of those end.
and this bears repeating - she is not brett's family. she's more of a burden that he has to deal with.
I think Doug sums it up pretty well. It still amazes me that this is an "issue." I want you to know that I think what you and Brett have is beautiful! I know it hurts but just remember that this is their issue, not yours.
Your hugs penetrate cyber space beautifully. :) Any chance you, your hubby, Doug and Nguya (sp?) would ever consider taking a trek out to the mountains on a Saturday morning for a lunch here and hiking or hanging out? Brett and I would love to host you.
Awww...of course! That sounds absatively delightful! Though as I mentioned to Brett, I'm rather overbooked. And though Nguyet and Doug are crazy busy as is Hubby...I don't think it's impossible to get us all at the same place and time! :)
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seriously, this is not a problem with you in any way, shape, or form. Blood ties do not always a "family" make -- sometimes much stronger family and support structures come out of people who really care and accept, not through some obligation of blood.
I meant to post something in Brett's journal earlier, but didn't have the time. Accept who you all are and the joy you have, and if they won't accept it, move on with out them. (though, perhaps, you may get a lifetime supply of free kindling if they keep sending you books . . .).
I don't have time to write for real here, either, but I had to say something . . .
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and this bears repeating - she is not brett's family. she's more of a burden that he has to deal with.
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I think Doug sums it up pretty well. It still amazes me that this is an "issue." I want you to know that I think what you and Brett have is beautiful! I know it hurts but just remember that this is their issue, not yours.
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to Brett, I'm rather overbooked. And though Nguyet and Doug are crazy busy
as is Hubby...I don't think it's impossible to get us all at the same
place and time! :)
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