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A huge debate sprung up in my English class today. Me vs. Everyone Else. I won't explain why we were talking about this, but basically, the question my professor asked us was, "So, if after many years in a relationship with someone you really love... If you guys found out that your partner was actually a member of the same sex as you, what would you do?" (We'll disregard the fact that you'd have to be dumb not to realize your lover was actually the same sex as you and not the opposite like you thought. Gallimard was dumb, okay? But for the sake of a discussion on gender, we were asked to imagine it.) Would we still love our partner no matter what, or would we end the relationship? Man oh man. My classmates succeeded in yanking out my pet peeve and making me angry.
They said things that I guess are pretty normal and explicable. I can't hold it against them. They said "If all of a sudden the person you love said they were actually the same gender as you, that would change everything! Sexual attraction is the first thing that pulls you in, therefore with that gone everything else is messed up. It would mean your whole relationship was a lie!" Siiiigghh. Either they're all shallow, or just too dumb to think deeper. Or maybe I'm just screwy in the head and it's my fault. But my argument was this: "Maybe some people are pulled into a relationship initially by sexual attraction, but that's lust. We're talking about love. Lust can develope into love. But love itself is pure and has nothing to do with gender. Love is emotional because you're connecting deeply to another person. A person is one unique entity on the inside, so gender doesn't effect it. If it's strong enough love, it can transcend the gender barrier. I think it can eventually turn into lust, too, because lust/intercourse is how we express love sometimes. But still, think of it this way - you've been with your partner for a long time, and you honestly love the person. After you've reached that point of emotional connection, why the hell should it suddenly change because the person's gender did? Besides, do you honestly think that even if you did disapprove of your lover's new gender that you'd be able to stop loving them just like that? 'Oh, sorry, I'm not a homo so I have to fall out of love with you now.' It might have been a bit of a lie because you went into the relationship believing you both were opposite sexes, but after a while, and with love, the issue of gender stops being relevent."
Arrgh. It's like what Song says when he tells Gallimard he's actually a guy. "This is the same skin you touched back then. It was still me underneath, the person you loved, the whole time." (That was a paraphrase because I'm lazy, but...) Am I completely stark raving mad?! Probably. I probably should be seeing a psychologist, judging by how outnumbered I was and how not even the most perceptive of my classmates seemed to want to consider my point. They thought I was insane. I'm sure that holding an opinion like this is going to get me into trouble. I'm sure that half my stupid class that was too hung up on fucking the opposite sex to listen to me came to the conclusion that I must be a lesbian for feeling the way I do. Goody gumdrops. The whole WORLD wants me to be a lesbian, but that's another story entirely... Still, I hardly ever talk about this issue. I never brought it up until it came up a few times in conversation with Alaina. Then again in English today because I lost my temper. Man oh man.
HA HA HA HA HA HAAAA! I finally got the live action Death Note movie to download in one piece with good subtitles. Now I get to watch Tatsuya play Light Yagami right after drooling about Battle Royale. That's cool I guess, but... I still don't think he makes a very good Light. I don't like the way the film decides not to follow the plot of the manga like... at all, either. About all I think I'm looking forward to is seeing Ryuk running around in CG animation. So, who's watching it with me? *grin* Can't believe I procrastinated with seeing it.
The best part: I fast forwarded it, and it stopped on the section when Watari opens up the laptop that L speaks from before we see his face. He had the "L" desktop background (that I already copied on Photoshop to a T so I could have it for myself), obviously, but when he opened the laptop and I saw the back, guess what I realized? WHAT KIND OF LAPTOP DOES L USE?! Oh yeah. *victory dance* L uses a Macbook Pro. What kind of computer does Emily have? A fuckin' Macbook Pro. THAT'S RIGHT BITCHES. World's best detective uses a Mac.
My life is now complete.
They said things that I guess are pretty normal and explicable. I can't hold it against them. They said "If all of a sudden the person you love said they were actually the same gender as you, that would change everything! Sexual attraction is the first thing that pulls you in, therefore with that gone everything else is messed up. It would mean your whole relationship was a lie!" Siiiigghh. Either they're all shallow, or just too dumb to think deeper. Or maybe I'm just screwy in the head and it's my fault. But my argument was this: "Maybe some people are pulled into a relationship initially by sexual attraction, but that's lust. We're talking about love. Lust can develope into love. But love itself is pure and has nothing to do with gender. Love is emotional because you're connecting deeply to another person. A person is one unique entity on the inside, so gender doesn't effect it. If it's strong enough love, it can transcend the gender barrier. I think it can eventually turn into lust, too, because lust/intercourse is how we express love sometimes. But still, think of it this way - you've been with your partner for a long time, and you honestly love the person. After you've reached that point of emotional connection, why the hell should it suddenly change because the person's gender did? Besides, do you honestly think that even if you did disapprove of your lover's new gender that you'd be able to stop loving them just like that? 'Oh, sorry, I'm not a homo so I have to fall out of love with you now.' It might have been a bit of a lie because you went into the relationship believing you both were opposite sexes, but after a while, and with love, the issue of gender stops being relevent."
Arrgh. It's like what Song says when he tells Gallimard he's actually a guy. "This is the same skin you touched back then. It was still me underneath, the person you loved, the whole time." (That was a paraphrase because I'm lazy, but...) Am I completely stark raving mad?! Probably. I probably should be seeing a psychologist, judging by how outnumbered I was and how not even the most perceptive of my classmates seemed to want to consider my point. They thought I was insane. I'm sure that holding an opinion like this is going to get me into trouble. I'm sure that half my stupid class that was too hung up on fucking the opposite sex to listen to me came to the conclusion that I must be a lesbian for feeling the way I do. Goody gumdrops. The whole WORLD wants me to be a lesbian, but that's another story entirely... Still, I hardly ever talk about this issue. I never brought it up until it came up a few times in conversation with Alaina. Then again in English today because I lost my temper. Man oh man.
HA HA HA HA HA HAAAA! I finally got the live action Death Note movie to download in one piece with good subtitles. Now I get to watch Tatsuya play Light Yagami right after drooling about Battle Royale. That's cool I guess, but... I still don't think he makes a very good Light. I don't like the way the film decides not to follow the plot of the manga like... at all, either. About all I think I'm looking forward to is seeing Ryuk running around in CG animation. So, who's watching it with me? *grin* Can't believe I procrastinated with seeing it.
The best part: I fast forwarded it, and it stopped on the section when Watari opens up the laptop that L speaks from before we see his face. He had the "L" desktop background (that I already copied on Photoshop to a T so I could have it for myself), obviously, but when he opened the laptop and I saw the back, guess what I realized? WHAT KIND OF LAPTOP DOES L USE?! Oh yeah. *victory dance* L uses a Macbook Pro. What kind of computer does Emily have? A fuckin' Macbook Pro. THAT'S RIGHT BITCHES. World's best detective uses a Mac.
My life is now complete.