On marriage

[smashattack]

Recently a good deal of my friends have gotten married. Some have been surprises, but most I've seen coming for a long time. Just last night, one of my good friends from my first few years in college got married. I've known his girlfriend since he met her, and I think it was the first girl he was ever serious with, so this marriage wasn't one of

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[interimofzeal]

Odd. I started feeling REALLY off today, so I figured I'd just catch up on all the stuff people have been doing recently. Your post kind of coincides with what's troubling me, in a somewhat roundabout manner.

Good luck on the date, and I see nothing wrong with prenups. Honestly, in this era, it's foolish to commit without them.

[smashattack]

"Your post kind of coincides with what's troubling me."

You do know I have e-mail, and that we can talk more than just when you decide to visit LJ or Ft. Collins, right? ;)

But seriously, you can e-mail me.

[aequitasrequiro]

I think what you're feeling about what you see is somewhat true, but more a consequence of other things that carry over into it from other aspects of life. Thinking back to older generations (my parents being more old school and myself as well) people had a better sense of loyalty with everything they took on. You got a job when you were young, that company took care of you, you worked up the ladder, etc. There was security there but also appreciation and respect; a sense of gratitude for the opportunity. People had more roles and castes they fell into and they did their tasks. Basically, there was more of an order to things. These days, that's not the case. Most people these days do not have any loyalty to anyone or anything except their own interests. Because our society has shifted less to the whole and more to the individual. People won't hesitate to abandon a school or job or whatever is they believe another better offer is being made. Throw in the aspect that everything has to always have that new fresh appeal (more a

[cho413]

I know with Clara and I (and I've talked to her about this, because in hindsight I wasn't ready to get married), marriage is something, yeah you give up some freedoms, but really 1) its stuff you think you miss, but you really don't, and 2) it builds up to something much more meaningful

[smashattack]

I'd prefer dating for seven years and THEN getting a prenup.

I suppose the overpowering emotions that you mention are what I find frightening. If something has enough power to drive a person to abandon all logic and reasoning, the two things I strive to live my life by, then it's a damned powerful force. And damned scary.