honestly, dont listen to people. you don thave to move on right away, but eventually you will slowly learn to move on.
when i lost my aunt, it was the hardest thing for me. she was over my house every day since i was born. and so the second she left (which her anniversary is 3 years on the 14th) it was like i was missing a huge chunk. and it blew. massivly. and nothing anyone said helped. at all. not the slighteest bit.
and i feel you on this one matt. and im really sorry that you have to go through with this.
everyone copes with death differently. in this situation, time is honestly the best thing. things will get better as time goes on. just remember his life and celebrate every awesome thing you guys ever shared. i'm sure there is a million of them.
take it from me, i know death very well. i'm sure you loved your grandfather like i loved my dad. he was the closest person to me all my life since i never got along with my mom. just don't expect people to understand how you feel, because no one ever fucking does, unless they've been in your position before. the best way i've found to get through it is to pretend like he's there with you ALL the time, because HE IS. i don't know what type of bond you had with him.. but certain things like favorite songs, favorite foods, hobbies, favorite animals..just things that remind you of him, those things are happy memories. and it's best to smile, rather than to cry (like my mom does). my mom is the one who can't celebrate holidays like xmas, or her birthday (which was also their wedding anniversary), and she had a hard time on his birthday. she can't listen to songs that remind her of him. me on the other hand, if i'm listening to the radio and i hear a band he used to like, i keep it on and blast it, even if i hated it when he was alive. i
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when i lost my aunt, it was the hardest thing for me. she was over my house every day since i was born. and so the second she left (which her anniversary is 3 years on the 14th) it was like i was missing a huge chunk.
and it blew.
massivly.
and nothing anyone said helped.
at all.
not the slighteest bit.
and i feel you on this one matt.
and im really sorry that you have to go through with this.
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