sex without a relationship or a relationship without sex... which lasts longer?

[smellycate]

i heard a really good quote from sex and the city today and i forgot it already and i'm too lazy to rewind it... but it essentially had the notion that our girlfriends should be our soul mates and a boyfriend should be just a lucky guy who you have fun with

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[20_inch_dream]

oh theres guys out there who are like that you just have not came across them. Its odd to say but I am one of them. You should check out my old journal if you want proof. But trust me there are plenty of guys out there. I know a few, you just got to look.

[smellycate]

see.... you say that you aren't afraid and i believe you... but the other guys that aren't afraid have already entered the relationship that they aren't afraid in.
which leaves all the guys who are afraid.

so as women, should we go ahead and comfort these men who are afraid and tell them that it's ok that they're scared? or do we proclaim how unfair it is and if they still are afraid, move on? in hopes of searching the plenty of guys out there who aren't scared...

i think i think too much.

[sostrungout]

corey's afraid of getting hurt...so he's afraid of risking it.
but what you said up there about just saying your afraid, but not caring...that's exactly what i told him!!!

i said, "i care about you so much that i'm deathly afraid of getting my heart broken...but i definately know that it's worth it, and i'm NOT afraid of at least trying."

[smellycate]

well that's good that you told him. cy knows the same. the main reason i bring up this or any other issue in our relationship is because i am so terrified of getting hurt... and cy is the only guy in the position in my life to hurt me that bad. and he knows that i'm willing to try... cause i love him.

lol... boys. so confusing.