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[smurfettebleu]

This kind of came up between my roommate and I today, and I was wondering what other people thought about it:
How important is it, in your opinion, for significants other to speak to eachother every day without fail?

Comments

[starstealingirl]

I think it's important for all involved parties to feel like they're talking because they want to, and not because it's an obligation. Which I think it would become, if you felt like you had to speak every day without fail.

I mean, yes, communication is a good thing, but so is giving each other space, and knowing that the relationship will still be strong even if you don't talk for a day or two.

So... how'd this come up? (^_~)

[smurfettebleu]

It came up because my roommate was freaking out because she hadn't talked to her boyfriend all day. Then she became pissed off and annoyed at him when she couldn't get a hold of him.

[smurfettebleu]

Yeah, I think it definitely depends on the couple. Oh and the "other person" is my friend Adrienne from Portland :) and Adrienne this silly one above me is Heather, my roommate next year :)

[kristencharles]

I would say, for me, that it is much more important to have high quality conversations than high quantity. Many long-distance relationships have failed because one or both parties thought every day communication was necessary, and it got mundane and annoying. When two people live in the same town, and usually (in the case of adult-type relationships) in the same apartment or dorm, then I think every day communication is a given. And I use communication loosely, as in, interaction. As far as intense, real, deep communication, I don't think it has to happen every day. As long as it's open and honest. I really think that it is unreasonable and unrealistic (although I'm guilty of it) to expect in long-distance relationships that there will be every day communication.

[smurfettebleu]

Very good point.

[smurfettebleu]

I agree, thanks for your comments!

[weloveyoucorky]

i didn't read everyone elses- so sorry if i repeat anything. so obvouisly i am not one to really have the experience to respond- considering my past relationships (aka- lack thereof). but i think that if you are in the good and healthy relationship, then it shouldn't matter how often you talk. i mean if you talk every day- then good for you. but if you freak out because you didn't talk for one measley day, then i think that is silly. people need to live their own lives and yet be able to coexist with their significant others. that doesn't mean obligations to each other. but sometimes people are busy, or just don't feel like talking and i think people need to respect that.

[smurfettebleu]

agreed