I only feel excluded if people don't want to admit there were at a party or that I wasn't invited. The way I figure it, I can enjoy WAY more if I dig having someone else share their experience with me! Does this make sense?
I think you're being very honest and forthright here - it may have been better to have included these caveats at the time you posted about the events.
On another note, it's just the upside of fame. Everyone is convinced that Alley Cat is THEIR best friend. It's your superpower of popularity, but it has a flipside - why isn't my best friend (good friend, whatever) inviting me to all of her events? Trouble is, 300+ feel that way.
Hm, why do you treat everyone like their your best friend may be an interesting question for you to ask yourself.
On that note - you're working tonight and I'm coming to find you!
well, i think a lot has to do with how you talk about it. the kikompression post, for example, made if fairly clear that it was Kiko's party (because of the name, if nothing else). but you also said "some new faces, and all the classics" which might have made folks feel, well, not so classic
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you sent out 130 invitations to your birthday? I thought i was one of a very select group of maybe 20. Yeesh.
(Kidding!)
I do think it's a challenge to try to reach everyone when you have a large community of friends. I used to get hung up on this "was I invited?" and "who should I invite?" stuff. I've mellowed out about it a lot as I've gotten older. The truth is that my best connections happen one-on-one anyway, so whether or not I've been invited to a cool party matters a whole lot less. I hope your posting smooths some ruffled feathers though. Sometimes people need a reminder that you have a ton of friends and it wasn't personal (or may have been a glitch) if they didn't receive an invitation. It's not always the deliberate snub someone might assume it was.
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On another note, it's just the upside of fame. Everyone is convinced that Alley Cat is THEIR best friend. It's your superpower of popularity, but it has a flipside - why isn't my best friend (good friend, whatever) inviting me to all of her events? Trouble is, 300+ feel that way.
Hm, why do you treat everyone like their your best friend may be an interesting question for you to ask yourself.
On that note - you're working tonight and I'm coming to find you!
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also, you never made it in last night? or did i miss you somehow?
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it's all about the politics of dancing
the politics of ooo feeling good
the politics of moving
is this message understood?
also, for the record, feel free not to invite me to anything. i won't take it personally!
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(Kidding!)
I do think it's a challenge to try to reach everyone when you have a large community of friends. I used to get hung up on this "was I invited?" and "who should I invite?" stuff. I've mellowed out about it a lot as I've gotten older. The truth is that my best connections happen one-on-one anyway, so whether or not I've been invited to a cool party matters a whole lot less. I hope your posting smooths some ruffled feathers though. Sometimes people need a reminder that you have a ton of friends and it wasn't personal (or may have been a glitch) if they didn't receive an invitation. It's not always the deliberate snub someone might assume it was.
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