the process...(important to me, pls read)

[snallison]

so i am actually feeling really grounded after talking to frank jones. rub his belly, he's a wise one. (actually, don't. he'll prolly thank you

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[lifeasjuicy]

The process, indeed. You are fully in it. And I am so relating to you...this trying to make sense of the ways in which our woundedness is handed down, and reaching for insight and trying on perspectives so when we can't make sense of it, at least we can understand some worldview on which we make our choices and decisions and take our actions or feel too overwhelmed to act. My current worldview: there is good, there is bad, there are shades of gray, and it all passes...all of it comes and goes. It is the process

[djmermaid]

Hmmm. This is some deep stuff and I'm glad to see you are working on/through this.

I would say that loving yourself means saying no to people who don't treat you well (this is something that you and I have talked about some, and it's tough to do.) I guess accepting who they are anyway is the part that's about loving them. I'm not quite there yet - well, I go back and forth.

I do trust love, but I don't think it's the only thing - it's not enough, by itself. It's taken me a long time to get to this point, and not surprisingly, now that I get it, I am in a truly healthy relationship.

I don't really know what to say, besides that. I'm thinking of you and sending you love, and hoping that this goes well for you (or as well as it can, I know it can't be easy). Remember to take care of yourself - sounds like you are doing that.

xoxoxoxox,

your friend and fan,

- M

[pyrokitten_mew]

thank you for sharing this, and thank you for opening up to me today. let's get together when you return from michigan.

[bigsockgrrl]

my grandmother who we all had mixed feelings about just died, as well. grief is isolating, but you aren't the only one whose ever felt some approximation of the mix you are feeling. maybe that doesn't help, maybe it does. i keep reminding myself: time heals all wounds. hugs to you and your family.