I didn't read it all, but I have someone on my f-list is who is the same... She's 21/22 and pregnant with baby #4. her husband work below minimal wage... She says that God decided how many babies they will have. I guess it works out ok for now, but what happens when the babies grow into "children" and teenagers and needs more (economically)? Ugh.
I'm totally with you on this one. I'd like to have kids some time in the next few years, but not if I can't afford to provide them with the basics. "The Lord" did not provide that woman with those things her kids needed - generous friends and neighbors did. And if those friends and neighbors had all had more kids than they could afford, they probably wouldn't have had any cash or vegetables left over to share with her. When packages of diapers and food start falling from the sky, I'll start having more babies than I can afford too. Until then, though, I'll continue to ignore anyone who tells me it's a good idea to start popping them out.
I think you're right that she probably feels like she's doing her Christian duty by sending you that message. Seems awfully irresponsible and creepy to me too.
I'd feel like you. Your response would be exactly like mine (how stupid can you be to keep pooping out kids when the ones already there barely have nothing to begin with???), but I probably wouldn't quite dare to send it... On the other hand, maybe if you did, she won't be so quick to harass someone else in the future??? (Wishful thinking.)
Wow. I'm totally with you on this one -- don't have babies you can't provide for. I think this woman is completely out of line, and it was not any god that provided her with the ability to feed and clothe her family, it was a group of generous community members.
I would definitely want to send the reply you talked about, how believing that "God" will provide for kids you can't afford is silly and how having children while you are not financially stable is irresponsible and selfish. I don't know if I would be brave enough to actually send it, but I would definitely feel the urge to.
holly hell. I can't believe someone would take the time to write that to another they don't even know. and you gotta love how she assumes that just because parents have money - the kids are going to be brats and won't know the value of money.
I agree with you thought. You need to be able to provide for you kids. It doesn't help anyone if you are always worried about money and can't be there for your kids as much.
My mom is the same. she never pressured for kids, being married or being in a relationship. You have to be able to provide for them and give them the time that they need and deserve.
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I think you're right that she probably feels like she's doing her Christian duty by sending you that message. Seems awfully irresponsible and creepy to me too.
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On the other hand, maybe if you did, she won't be so quick to harass someone else in the future??? (Wishful thinking.)
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I would definitely want to send the reply you talked about, how believing that "God" will provide for kids you can't afford is silly and how having children while you are not financially stable is irresponsible and selfish. I don't know if I would be brave enough to actually send it, but I would definitely feel the urge to.
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I agree with you thought. You need to be able to provide for you kids. It doesn't help anyone if you are always worried about money and can't be there for your kids as much.
My mom is the same. she never pressured for kids, being married or being in a relationship. You have to be able to provide for them and give them the time that they need and deserve.
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