Love doesn't mean not hurting. It's being able accept that hurt will come, and committing to finding ways to move through and grow past it. People aren't perfect, and we *will* find ways to do injury to each other through intent and without thought, hurt is inevitable when we open ourselves to another person. It's the choices after being hurt that determine whether it's love or if we're present to each other only on sufferance and made temporary. Do we keep trying when trying is the more difficult choice? Do we know enough to walk away when it's the hardest decision in order to preserve ourselves as someone worth loving and able to love?
We, you and I, had a phone call ages ago about love and it being a conversation between people. Every once in a while, we've been quite smart in our philosophies built in the middle of the night.
The biggest challenge for me has been coming out of a difficult relationship (family or romantic) not feeling like it was that way because that is all I deserved. Over time, I learned to respect myself better than that. The difficulties are part of the cosmic screening process of what is good for my soul and what isn't. Once I know these things, I am free to choose better. Difficult relationships are obstacles to be negotiated... and that's soul-sucking and tiresome.
A male friend once told me that love is just an emotion based on a value judgement, and I've come to believe it really isn't any deeper than that.
**This post has been spiritually enhanced by Two Buck Chuck Cabernet**
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We, you and I, had a phone call ages ago about love and it being a conversation between people. Every once in a while, we've been quite smart in our philosophies built in the middle of the night.
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The biggest challenge for me has been coming out of a difficult relationship (family or romantic) not feeling like it was that way because that is all I deserved. Over time, I learned to respect myself better than that. The difficulties are part of the cosmic screening process of what is good for my soul and what isn't. Once I know these things, I am free to choose better. Difficult relationships are obstacles to be negotiated... and that's soul-sucking and tiresome.
A male friend once told me that love is just an emotion based on a value judgement, and I've come to believe it really isn't any deeper than that.
**This post has been spiritually enhanced by Two Buck Chuck Cabernet**
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..and Jeff Buckley will drop anyone. He's been known to melt tungsten before. Why did he have to follow his daddy and die tragically young?
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