actually, it emphasized some of my concerns. Agreed that sex should wait until love, but not until marriage. Abstinence seems to rush people into marriage, often causing them to be unhappy for much of their lives because they were too fast to marry someone and never allowed themselves to become fully matured. And I suppose the bigger problem I have with abstinent people arguing their values, is that they've never had sex. You don't understand- that is truly understand it- until you've done it. I guess my other problem is that when you speak of love you speak like it's one person- but from what I've heard/experienced you can love more than one person in a lifetime...so why not share the expression of love when it is felt?
I love many people, but that doesn't mean I'm going to have sex with them. Romantically love? Yes, it is possible to love more than one person in a lifetime, but the thing is the emotional vulnerability and the openness to be left broken. I know that I would be totally enraptured with whoever I had sex with first, and if she left me, I would be totally crushed.
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Agreed that sex should wait until love, but not until marriage.
Abstinence seems to rush people into marriage, often causing them to be unhappy for much of their lives because they were too fast to marry someone and never allowed themselves to become fully matured.
And I suppose the bigger problem I have with abstinent people arguing their values, is that they've never had sex. You don't understand- that is truly understand it- until you've done it.
I guess my other problem is that when you speak of love you speak like it's one person- but from what I've heard/experienced you can love more than one person in a lifetime...so why not share the expression of love when it is felt?
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