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Fair Weather Friends
Most people you hang out with aren't ever friends. They're just people that tolerate your presence. As long as you conform ( Read more... ) -
Roasted veg with halloumi
You will need ( Read more... ) -
ADHD: My Sat-Nav is a disability aid.
Since well before diagnosis, I had worked out that I find satnav disproportionately useful.
I'd use my Tomtom, and then 'google maps' for even routine journeys.
At the time, I thought it was 'just' a cognitive load thing, and by offloading some of my braining to a device I could pay more attention to driving.
Which was true. But ADHD made that ( Read more... ) -
ADHD in Everything Everywhere All At Once
The lead character: Evelyn is a worse case scenario.
She's a prisoner of her ADHD. She's struggling. She's spinning plates. And she's at the limit in what she can do, but frustrated by mediocrity. In all her parallel lives we see echoes of her unrealised potential.
In some ways failing would be better - by letting the plates drop, you are freed of ( Read more... ) -
ADHD and how to make intimacy work
Get creative. Some people treat sex like junk food. And sure - a big mac is nice.
But you can also treat sex as a 3 course meal in a luxury restaurant. And that's also nice.
ADHD can get in the way of sex - focus control is a very real problem, and emotional control can be too.
Sometimes planning your '3 course meal' helps it go more smoothly?
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It wasn't Depression at all. It was ADHD that made me depressed.
It wasn't Depression at all. It was ADHD that made me depressed.
All. This. Time.
I wasn't stupid or lazy.
I just thought I was, because ADHD makes some things in life inexplicably hard.
ADHD screws with:
- focus
- impulsiveness
- motivation
- emotions
Y'know all the stuff you need to "adult". It makes 'making friends' hard, and 'holding ( Read more... ) -
How ADHD + Depression nearly killed me
**Content warning: emotional abuse, suicidal ideation, depression.**
**Spoiler: happy ending.**
This is a story of a dark road. Maybe you aren't ready for that today. That's ok.
Because I was a very unpleasant person for a while, and I can't even say that I didn't mean it. Maybe by the end of this you won't think I deserve the happy ending I ( Read more... ) -
Bullying your ADHD brain doesn't work. Stop doing it.
I know a lot of us have this problem - with ourselves, and maybe with other ADHD people in our lives.
I've done it myself. That feeling that if you just _try harder_, or that maybe this time you can _make_ yourself do the thing?
And it doesn't work that time either.
Dopamine starvation is always a high priority issue in your brain. The only ( Read more... ) -
ADHD: Your relationships are hard, because your defaults are wrong.
Executive function underpins almost all of our lives, and ADHD degrades it.
Relationships - be they romantic, friendships, colleagues or ... anything else really, usually have some implicit rules to them\*. Expectations of mutual conduct.
And your default behaviours are incompatible with some of those expectations.
Other people will find the ' ( Read more... ) -
ADHD: Average jobs are not for exceptional people
It's you. You're exceptional.
The 'common' motivators for employment are Consequence and Reward. Getting paid; not getting fired.
Lots of people work jobs like that. Jobs they tolerate until retirement, focusing on the payoff at the end.
I'm afraid that won't work for you. ADHD will always make _that_ sort of employment difficult.
Why? Well ( Read more... )